is there a polite way I can "uninvite" myself to roommate's Thanksgiving? after I already said yes.. (boyfriend, siblings)

[Gabbythecat]

Give them your apologies. Something came up and you can't make it. Be vague.

Leave for the day on Thursday. Go to a park or some place. A bar? Go shopping! It's hard to know since a lot of places aren't open that day.

Next time this happens, think carefully before you accept the invitation. You don't have to say what you are doing, just that you have other plans.

[johngolf]

In life I have had to smile and make small talk with some people I detested. It is part of life. Grow up.

[maciesmom]

Originally Posted by ThatUsernameIsTaken

It's a legitimate question. I am going to guess Jehovah's Witnesses or Mormons. Maybe Catholic or Islam though.

Wondering how the appropriate response to the OP's dilemma differs if the family is Catholic vs the response if they are LDS or JW, or Jewish?

[Pitt Chick]

Originally Posted by HighFlyingBird

Well if it's a real hardcore and slightly scary religious movement I think that would weight heavily on how close I would get to the people of said religion.

Can't get much closer than living together under the same roof, which the OP is already doing!

[brownbagg]

nope, suck it up, if i have to do it, so do you, its just a couple hours, beside they think of you enough to invite you.

[SFBayBoomer]

Originally Posted by sunburned_in_seattle

I initally thought I would have to work on Thanksgiving, but now it looks like I will not...I would rather just hang out in my room (ONE DAY OF REST!!) and watch netflix...

I don't think you can do that. If you are IN THE BUILDING, you'll be obliged to spend Thanksgiving with them, else they may soon become your ex-landlords.

[SFBayBoomer]

Originally Posted by Meyerland

Get a hotel room and say you have to work unexpectedly. Then hang out there all day.

If a person rents out a room in a house, they are unlikely to have the disposable cash to rent a hotel room.

But more importantly, LYING stinks.

[Bluesmama]

Originally Posted by sunburned_in_seattle

I initally thought I would have to work on Thanksgiving, but now it looks like I will not...I would rather just hang out in my room (ONE DAY OF REST!!) and watch netflix...

I know you wrote "would rather" but please don't seriously consider it. Because if you do this, it's almost a guarantee that your living arrangements won't be so peaceful from then on. Not because they'll turn vicious or anything, but it will be very awkward.


If you need to lie your way out of it then come up with a good one (sibling suddenly invited you, something), and GO SOMEWHERE ELSE. In reference to the above poster's comments about lying, I don't think you could give a truthful answer in this situation without causing hard feelings.

[maciesmom]

Originally Posted by Bluesmama

I know you wrote "would rather" but please don't seriously consider it. Because if you do this, it's almost a guarantee that your living arrangements won't be so peaceful from then on. Not because they'll turn vicious or anything, but it will be very awkward.


If you need to lie your way out of it then come up with a good one (sibling suddenly invited you, something), and GO SOMEWHERE ELSE. In reference to the above poster's comments about lying, I don't think you could give a truthful answer in this situation without causing hard feelings.

Just FYI, saying basically "I got a better offer" as an excuse to decline an already accepted invitation, is also going to cause hurt feelings - and it's rude.

[JanND]

Originally Posted by Scratch33

*cough* *cough* I think I'm coming down with something. Works every time.

I think you should do this. Tell them you are going to hunker down under your blankets and drink tea. It also may make them avoid bringing you a plate. And, hereafter...make an excuse and decline any invites.