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This is something that happens to me all the time and I was wondering how other people feel about it.
I know people have a short attention span and I'm not the best or most entertaining anecdotal speaker, so I generally keep my stories really short, like 60 seconds or under.
I still get cut off all the time. I'll be in the middle of telling it and somebody will just break into another topic, or start talking to somebody else. I'm so used to getting cut off, sometimes I will preface the story by saying it's a really short one.
This is something that happens ALL of the time. I don't think it's crazy rude or anything, but I would take the time to hear a person finish their little story. I think it's kind of nice and polite, even if it's unbearably boring or the delivery is bad (which how bad could it be for 60 seconds). Also, if I have to cut a person off, I'll go back and say "OK, sorry, finish your story."
Either you are a super talkative person that don't let others speak, so they have to cut you off abruptly or you need to find people that find your stories interesting.
Either you are a super talkative person that don't let others speak, so they have to cut you off abruptly or you need to find people that find your stories interesting.
I said I keep my stories to 60 seconds or less.
I said I always let other people finish their stories, no matter how boring.
Either you are a super talkative person that don't let others speak, so they have to cut you off abruptly or you need to find people that find your stories interesting.
Could be, but I see it happen to others frequently, even those who are not dominating a conversation. I think it's terribly rude, but honestly, most perpetrators seem completely unaware that they're doing it. In a world where people would rather text than talk, I think it's just par for the course.
Could be, but I see it happen to others frequently, even those who are not dominating a conversation. I think it's terribly rude, but honestly, most perpetrators seem completely unaware that they're doing it. In a world where people would rather text than talk, I think it's just par for the course.
Right.
Somebody with charisma and who talks all the time, people are more likely to listen to the story and even be enraptured. Like the VP of my division.
Somebody who is more introverted and might not deliver the best, will get cut off all the time. Like some engineers I work with.
Like I said, I'm definitely more of the latter, so I try and keep my stories REALLY short. Even then, sometimes, when I'm in a certain crowd that has dominant talkers, I'll have a really good anecdote to the conversation, and I'll just say screw it and I won't tell it because I know I'll get cut off.
It's nice that you notice that it happens to other people though.
This is something that happens to me all the time and I was wondering how other people feel about it.
I know people have a short attention span and I'm not the best or most entertaining anecdotal speaker, so I generally keep my stories really short, like 60 seconds or under.
I still get cut off all the time. I'll be in the middle of telling it and somebody will just break into another topic, or start talking to somebody else. I'm so used to getting cut off, sometimes I will preface the story by saying it's a really short one.
This is something that happens ALL of the time. I don't think it's crazy rude or anything, but I would take the time to hear a person finish their little story. I think it's kind of nice and polite, even if it's unbearably boring or the delivery is bad (which how bad could it be for 60 seconds). Also, if I have to cut a person off, I'll go back and say "OK, sorry, finish your story."
Anybody else have this happen a lot?
Who specifically is doing this to you and how often?
The reason I ask is because there are actually several different scenarios. One would be your close friends and family, and the other would be one or two coworkers, and the other would be EVERYONE ALL THE TIME. There's a difference between those scenarios and how you should probably handle them.
Friends and family - I'd point it out as soon as it happened, and say, "I wasn't finished yet - let me finish what I was saying," and then in private I'd ask that person WHY they do that to you all the time.
Coworkers - same thing but I'd probably not ask them in private to explain themselves. I'd just butt right back in and say, "Excuse me - I was talking. As I was saying..."
But if many people are truly doing this to you all the time, I'd say that there's something in your demeanor or way of speaking that's at the root of the issue. I mean, this happens to everyone on occasion, but it doesn't happen to most people "all of the time."
Some people are rude and overbearing and need their hand called on this - in other words, people need to be more assertive with them. But then some people are not assertive enough. And some people are perpetual victims in various situations because that's THEIR comfort zone (not saying that's you, just saying that those people do exist).
So please clarify exactly who is doing this and how often.
I never begin a longish anecdote unless I think the person is interested in hearing it. That's rule number one. Nothing new. But over the past few marijuana (or whatever) enhanced years I can almost never completely tell a "good one" without either an uninvited schlock interrupting, or the person I am telling the story to just walking off. Very bizarre.
This is the main reason I simply keep to myself and "social" has gone way down my list of priorities. I really don't get it. Have people's attention spans become soo decreased down to 10 seconds or less? Sure looks like it.
Coworkers - same thing but I'd probably not ask them in private to explain themselves. I'd just butt right back in and say, "Excuse me - I was talking. As I was saying..."
But if many people are truly doing this to you all the time, I'd say that there's something in your demeanor or way of speaking that's at the root of the issue. I mean, this happens to everyone on occasion, but it doesn't happen to most people "all of the time."
Some people are rude and overbearing and need their hand called on this - in other words, people need to be more assertive with them. But then some people are not assertive enough. And some people are perpetual victims in various situations because that's THEIR comfort zone (not saying that's you, just saying that those people do exist).
So please clarify exactly who is doing this and how often.
Usually co-workers and looser friends.
You're right. It doesn't happen 'all the time'. It happens some of the time.
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You have to learn how to say "let me finish!" You don't have to be rude about it, but I find that saying this works wonders.
Nah, not that kind of person.
Instead, I'd rather create an anonymous thread on the internet and hope somebody reads it and gets the hint. Lol.
That's not actually a bad idea, I'm just not sure how it would go over in a crowd.
It happens mostly when I am speaking with my mother. I may be saying something. but she'll cut off and talk about something else, or start doing something else, and talking aloud. However, on occasion she tries to come back with "Say that again" or "Go ahead", in which case I ignore her and don't speak to her at all. Sometimes it seems to annoy her, but I am glad if it does lol She did the same thing yesterday, where she then asks me a question about something I said, and I just walk away and act as though I didn't hear her, which she was annoyed with. But, good. lol
It happened with an acquaintance when she'd call me on the phone, and I could be talking when she goes off and is talking to someone else in the background. Then I am there holding the phone while she's talking to her family. So I solved that by telling her not to call me again. If she wanted to communicate, then a text was better suited for her. But I was nicer then. if someone on the phone did that to me today, I would be inclined to hang up on them, and possibly not answer the phone when they called back.
So, interruption usually tells me they are uninterested, and that's my cue to shut down and stop speaking to them. Because chances are, I was only speaking to them in the 1st place to be nice. Because I usually have music and am currently in La La Land when others wanna make small-talk. Like asking what music I am listening to. Does anyone really care? lol
Last edited by HappyRain; 12-19-2015 at 08:36 AM..
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