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Thanks everybody!
As I see it, I have a lot to offer; no one owes me anything! I may sound martyr-ish for putting it that way, but as Ms. Aragon just stated, seeking opportunities to give. Who knows? I might just run into someone I could mentor and help lead the way.
Thanks and that's true. But you might also meet people who you may be able to be friends with, on equal standing. Or you might meet a lot of dweebs and you may not want to hang out with any of them again.
You know, when I was single - and definitely wanting to find a partner - I sometimes realized with a start that there was simply no telling when and where I might meet my future mate. In fact, I might even already KNOW my future mate. That's a lot of pressure to live under all the time, if you let yourself go there. Better to just enjoy events, friendships, little happenings and interactions without burdening them with so much pressure to be at your best or "on point."
You know what - when I finally met my husband I was so tired of the rat race and the dating game that I was actually lackadaisical about meeting him. I remember getting ready for our first date and feeling ambivalent about it, because I was just TIRED of being "on alert" and "on point" and all that all the time. Come to find out, he was at that same stage in his life. In fact, we both almost called off the date (we didn't know that at the time, either - that came out later of course!).
All those days and nights that I'd put so much effort into - all those stupid dates and dumb nights out on the town - they all meant nothing. All they did in the long run was wear me out! But I guess I'm glad for all of it, the good and the bad, because at least I did know a good thing when it finally got right up in my face!
Just don't burden the moment with too many expectations - you'll come across as too hungry and desperate. You'll also burn yourself out.
Met up at a pizza place and got to speaking with a couple of older people. Socializing was great and I felt a little out of place at first, but things warmed up after a time and we went next door to a pool hall. Shot a couple of games and had a lot of laughs. Looking forward to the next event!
Met up at a pizza place and got to speaking with a couple of older people. Socializing was great and I felt a little out of place at first, but things warmed up after a time and we went next door to a pool hall. Shot a couple of games and had a lot of laughs. Looking forward to the next event!
That's great to hear. See, it wasn't so bad, now was it?
Met up at a pizza place and got to speaking with a couple of older people. Socializing was great and I felt a little out of place at first, but things warmed up after a time and we went next door to a pool hall. Shot a couple of games and had a lot of laughs. Looking forward to the next event!
Awww, that sounds like a lot of fun. GOOD FOR YOU!
Glad to hear it went well, let us know how things go in the future, I'm in a mood for positivity, lately been feeling sort of off and need to hear some good stuff, and I am glad to hear you had a good time.
While we were eating, I sat with a couple of older people as mentioned (a 71- yo retired social worker and a woman in her 60s, I'll call them "Joe" and "Lynn") Anyway, Joe and I got into shop talk, as our careers are somewhat similar, while Lynn and I engaged in talk about classic movies (we're both avid watchers of TCM). We had a friendly debate about Sinatra, as we are both fans (Incidentally, I live just several blocks from Sinatra's childhood home). Later, we went upstairs to play pool (I lost two games. WAAAA!!!) I did not expect this, but I met a woman who is a teacher lives near me. We played a game together and I showed her how to hold the cue stick. End of the night, she gave me her phone number (I never even asked for it!) And I was invited to a couple more get-togethers. This was the first time in weeks that I was able to forget about my troubles...And did it feel great! I'm looking forward to the next.
Met up at a pizza place and got to speaking with a couple of older people. Socializing was great and I felt a little out of place at first, but things warmed up after a time and we went next door to a pool hall. Shot a couple of games and had a lot of laughs. Looking forward to the next event!
Way to go ItsRick ... just do it. No looking back just keep on keeping on. I am happy you had a good time.
Good for you...sounds like you are involving yourself in a well rounded group of potential new friends to do fun things with
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See, it wasn't so bad, now was it? 
