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The kind of life that involves making lots of new friends, having a social circle full of people you go out with on some weekends, and partying with a large group of people during special events (new year's eve and halloween for example).
I sit home alone on New Years because I am visiting my family a few states over from where I go to college and I wonder this.
Seems like in college, everyone has time for social life, partying, making friends, and hooking up. After college, I hear about how all of this becomes near impossible as people get married, become focused on their careers, and have less time. No one "hooks up" anymore as it is all about LTRs and meeting women becomes almost impossible. Social circles become almost impossible to form if you aren't married with kids as most people are "too old" for any of the immature stuff you did in college.
The kind of life that involves making lots of new friends, having a social circle full of people you go out with on some weekends, and partying with a large group of people during special events (new year's eve and halloween for example).
I sit home alone on New Years because I am visiting my family a few states over from where I go to college and I wonder this.
Seems like in college, everyone has time for social life, partying, making friends, and hooking up. After college, I hear about how all of this becomes near impossible as people get married, become focused on their careers, and have less time. No one "hooks up" anymore as it is all about LTRs and meeting women becomes almost impossible. Social circles become almost impossible to form if you aren't married with kids as most people are "too old" for any of the immature stuff you did in college.
What is your experience?
In college, if you live on campus, everything is pretty much paid for (for a time) so you aren't required to hustle as much.
Your time is more flexible, so you can devote more of it to fun stuff.
No, hopefully you've maintained some friendships through the years as well as making new friends at the various extracurricular activities you're involved in.
"Mature" doesn't have to mean sitting at home lonely on weekend nights because I no longer have any friends to go out and do things with does it?
Obviously the choices you have made are very different than those of your friends hence the reason to maintain as much of the friendship you can as often as possible while finding new friends who have made choices that are close to those you have made.
One cannot hang on to childhood, grade school, high school or college forever, they must learn to adapt to each step of their future life.
OP, you can have just about any kind of life you choose after college. your choice. you just have to set your priorities. what do you want after college? if you want a successful career in some field, and if you want to continually move up in that field, and if you want to gain and maintain the respect of your peers in that field, then you will have to give up a lot of the partying lifestyle as it will interfere with your ultimate goals.
on the other hand if you want to just get by, wondering where the party money will come from, and wondering why you dont get ahead in your chosen career field, then party hardy.
remember that life is a set of choices. make the right ones, and you will go as far in life as you wish. make the wrong ones though, and life passes you by and leaves you in the ditch.
OP, you can have just about any kind of life you choose after college. your choice. you just have to set your priorities. what do you want after college? if you want a successful career in some field, and if you want to continually move up in that field, and if you want to gain and maintain the respect of your peers in that field, then you will have to give up a lot of the partying lifestyle as it will interfere with your ultimate goals.
on the other hand if you want to just get by, wondering where the party money will come from, and wondering why you dont get ahead in your chosen career field, then party hardy.
remember that life is a set of choices. make the right ones, and you will go as far in life as you wish. make the wrong ones though, and life passes you by and leaves you in the ditch.
Does it have to be that extreme though?
Can't you just save the partying to special occasions like new years and halloween for example and then use some of the time on weekends to work on your social life and make new friends?
Can't you just save the partying to special occasions like new years and halloween for example and then use some of the time on weekends to work on your social life and make new friends?
One day soon I do hope you will understand what you have been told 3 times so far. Good luck.
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