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Dump your friend who is about to officially enter into couplehood (the most digusting thing on this Planet, IMHO of course). The lameness of their friendships aren't worth it. I'm totally anti-relationship, anti-coupling, anti-natalalist, so perhaps I am a bit biased... But she sounds like a loser as does her new life partner (barf)
You've RSVP'd. Be a grown-up, and go to your friend's engagement announcement party. You don't have to stay forever. You might surprise yourself and have a good time -- here's a news flash: Most couples aren't joined at the hip and have been known to actually separate during a party so they can enjoy meeting other people.
Stay for a while, and if it's a dud, then leave. You leave politely: Not "oh, this party is so distressing, I miss my ex so much" moaning, but a bright, "Sorry I have to dash, but I have another party I promised to drop in on. Congratulations!" Which person sounds like more fun? But you might surprise yourself by actually having a good time -- as long as you haven't talked yourself out of it.
Perfect. I would just add turn off your phone. People are less likely to approach someone who is texting, that's the problem with younger people today. They can't be in the moment.
I wonder how many miss meeting making new friends, a possible romance, or even a job lead because they always have their face buried in their phone.
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I would just add turn off your phone. People are less likely to approach someone who is texting, that's the problem with younger people today. They can't be in the moment.
They could be on one of the gazillion hook up apps though where they are looking to screw someone else also on those apps within 10 feet of them! I think for younger people it's easier to do that than actually doing it manually. It's really only going to get more and more that way, no point fighting it.
I can't blame you for not wanting to go to the party, simply because I'm not fond of "look at me" celebrations where people invite everyone and their brother with the intent of being congratulated.
And if you just had a recent break-up that was particularly devastating, I don't see where it's necessary to go to such a party thrown by an acquaintance. If you had known her for years and she was part of your regular social set, then yes, I'd say to go because it's about them, not you. Maybe if it was a close friend, you wouldn't even be thinking twice because you'd be so happy for them.
But you're not close. She's a classmate. If you're the sun, she's not exactly Mercury or Venus. It sounds like she's out around Saturn. So I'd have just RSVP'd "no" in the first place. You didn't, however, so now it's on you to either manufacture a stomach flu or suck it up and go. TBH, I'd go with the stomach flu, but that's just me.
I can't believe no one (until me) bothered to ask her when this party is. How much notice she gives makes all the difference. The party isn't tomorrow. Yes, she's selfish and she should go if she said she'd go; but if she changes her RSVP now, I don't really see any harm.
I RSVPED after a good date that I thought would be super promising and I felt good and happy. I also was at her house and I was feeling good and happy lol
I suggest you not RSVP when you feel good and happy (drunk) anymore. If you don't go you will risk losing a drinking buddy and that is exactly what you are looking for after a heart-breaking lo5s of relationship.
Go, drink and be merry! Don't forget a housewarming gift like a bottle of your favorite wine (open it yourself and offer a glass to the guests of honor), or Jenga!!!!
Good luck, take a dare!!!!!
Because if I am not in a relationship then I'm nothing. Obviously if you are in a relationship someone wants you and picks you and you are a good desirable person and if you aren't in a relationship then you aren't.
Is this how you came to terms with your disability? You put all your stock on "true love" not seeing (or overlooking) what you perceived flaws?
I can't blame you for not wanting to go to the party, simply because I'm not fond of "look at me" celebrations where people invite everyone and their brother with the intent of being congratulated.
And if you just had a recent break-up that was particularly devastating, I don't see where it's necessary to go to such a party thrown by an acquaintance. If you had known her for years and she was part of your regular social set, then yes, I'd say to go because it's about them, not you. Maybe if it was a close friend, you wouldn't even be thinking twice because you'd be so happy for them.
But you're not close. She's a classmate. If you're the sun, she's not exactly Mercury or Venus. It sounds like she's out around Saturn. So I'd have just RSVP'd "no" in the first place. You didn't, however, so now it's on you to either manufacture a stomach flu or suck it up and go. TBH, I'd go with the stomach flu, but that's just me.
Good point. This is really just an acquaintance. Too many people throw the word "friend" around way too much. Yes, there are different degrees of friendship, but this is really just an acquaintance that the OP recently met.
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