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That may be the best "how we met" story I've ever heard! Not so much for your ex, but wow. It was obviously meant to be.
We were both young when we met and hadn't really matured into ourselves yet. All we understood at that point in our lives is that we wanted to find someone to settle down with, but yet didn't understand that a strong marriage took more than good chemistry. It was an incredible blow for him... and as strange as it sounds, it was for me too... quite honesty, I never really fell in love with my husband like I did my ex... I mean, I was crazy about him... and it was a vibrant relationship full of passion... and turmoil... I was also extremely close to his mom and I never had had a real mother figure in my life... and so when I broke it off I was really missing her.. I broke her heart probably more than my ex, to be completely honest. There were many, many times that I missed them... but what is so awesome about my husband, is that I could talk about it with him... he loved me unconditionally and accepted everything about me, including those feelings.
It was within that year that my ex found his "Ms Right" and he emailed to congratulate me on my pregnancy and wished me well. When facebook came online I snooped and learned enough about the woman he married and everything made so much more sense... she is religious and politically far-leaning right... completely opposite of me! From what I could gather they had a wonderful relationship completely void of the kinds of issues we used to fight about. We never spoke again and I never had interest in contacting him, but I'm really happy for him... he's got three very lovely children of his own and seems to be doing well professionally. It's all good.
It is quite interesting to me (a male) that varied women contributing to this thread thus far , up to this very posting of mine that you are reading now, say that they prefer living with men to women because women, by-and-large, tend to entail too much "drama". Examples:
MIKALA: "In general, I found men easier to live with."
GOULIGAN: "Men aren't NEARLY as petty, messy or snotty as women can be to live with. You aren't dealing with other women's hormones either and that's a good thing."
ROTHWELLS MUM: "I think male roommates are easier to deal with as long as you set up proper boundaries."
KAPHAWOMAN: "A lot of guys, particularly when very young, are pretty messy and will tolerate some behaviors that a lot of young women won't. But people are individuals. I've had better experiences with male than female roommates. In one instance we had a housekeeper so cleanliness was not an issue. In my opinion, men are more laid-back, give you your space and don't get into your personal business. They also want to have more fun in the house. I've run into so many potential female roommates who basically wanted the house to be a museum.
Quite self-revealing on the part of all these women to say this to all the rest of us (almost lke they are "betraying their gender").
Now if I, as a male, stated such a thing about women as a whole, I'd likely risk being accused of gender bashing or being anti-woman or stereotyping and what have you. Yet here in this thread, many of the females thus far (i.e., prior to my own posting that you are reading now) proclaim that haviing other females as roommates or housemates is too often fraught with dealing with all their "drama" and related "baggage". Hmm, quite interesting! I wouldn't necessarily take it upon myself, as a male, to make such a proclamation about women-at-large, as I try to avoid making broad-based generalizations such as this . . . yet this suggests that there is perhaps an element (or even more than a mere element) of truth to the proposition that the female half of humanity, by-and-large, is that much more prone to "drama" or "melodrama" of the kind that we speak of here. The femaile posters each convey that, in their own view, they find men to just be more "easygoing" all-in-all than women (though I'm sure we can find the exceptional male here-and-there who brings along his own collection of "drama" or "melodrama" in his own right).
Whatever the truth or lesser truth of said proposition about women in general: All-in-all, I still desire being with and around women though.
So my bf and I are both 23 and have been together since HS. We have even talked about marriage but want to save up money first. Three months ago my bf and I started sharing a house with two of his friends and everything has been going great, but one of my friends thinks it's weird and said she doesn't understand how I could live with so many guys, when in fact it's been great. Luckily they aren't messy or really like what many would think guys living in a bachelor pad would be like. I even have lived with two other girls in an apartment and THAT was a nightmare! There was never any TP, they were messy especially leaving all their products out covering the bathroom counter and lots of drama.
I can see where she may be coming from but what do you think?
Your friend should keep her comments to herself.
My best roommate was a guy..my worst was a female..
The guy situation was messed up only after his lil sister came to visit and she and his girlfriend started coming into my room and getting into my things while he and I were at work.
Guys are mellow women get catty.
If she is an attractive woman, and not some cat lady, there is a reason why she has all male roommates. And verified to be so, if the male roommates are not gay.
I think it's weird that anyone would care. A good friend of mine lived with her BF (now her husband/father of her children) and two male roommates for years. We live in an expensive city, with that many people they could afford a nice place.
I lived with a lot of combinations in my younger years: a house full of girls, a really packed house of girls/guys, and then me and just guys. While my bond with my girlfriends from college will never break (they are still best friends to this day), living with guys was *so* much easier in my situation too. Less drama, less messy (surprisingly), protective over me (so I felt safe), etc.
Luckily, it doesn't matter what your friend thinks. Your life, your decision. It's pretty easy. Enjoy the great roommates. They can be hard to find.
Some people are more conservative than others so they may find it weird or feel uncomfortable for genders of the opposite sex to live with each other and not have sex. I guess you just can't walk around with your underwear in those situations but I wouldn't do it around female roommates I don't feel comfortable with anyway. I personally prefer living with males or a mix of males and females. Second on the drama thing. I have also seen more female's rooms and spaces being messier than males.
Has anyone experienced their female roommates snooping in their rooms? I just can't imagine most male roommates doing that.
It is quite interesting to me (a male) that varied women contributing to this thread thus far , up to this very posting of mine that you are reading now, say that they prefer living with men to women because women, by-and-large, tend to entail too much "drama". Examples:
MIKALA: "In general, I found men easier to live with."
GOULIGAN: "Men aren't NEARLY as petty, messy or snotty as women can be to live with. You aren't dealing with other women's hormones either and that's a good thing."
ROTHWELLS MUM: "I think male roommates are easier to deal with as long as you set up proper boundaries."
KAPHAWOMAN: "A lot of guys, particularly when very young, are pretty messy and will tolerate some behaviors that a lot of young women won't. But people are individuals. I've had better experiences with male than female roommates. In one instance we had a housekeeper so cleanliness was not an issue. In my opinion, men are more laid-back, give you your space and don't get into your personal business. They also want to have more fun in the house. I've run into so many potential female roommates who basically wanted the house to be a museum.
Quite self-revealing on the part of all these women to say this to all the rest of us (almost lke they are "betraying their gender").
Now if I, as a male, stated such a thing about women as a whole, I'd likely risk being accused of gender bashing or being anti-woman or stereotyping and what have you. Yet here in this thread, many of the females thus far (i.e., prior to my own posting that you are reading now) proclaim that haviing other females as roommates or housemates is too often fraught with dealing with all their "drama" and related "baggage". Hmm, quite interesting! I wouldn't necessarily take it upon myself, as a male, to make such a proclamation about women-at-large, as I try to avoid making broad-based generalizations such as this . . . yet this suggests that there is perhaps an element (or even more than a mere element) of truth to the proposition that the female half of humanity, by-and-large, is that much more prone to "drama" or "melodrama" of the kind that we speak of here. The femaile posters each convey that, in their own view, they find men to just be more "easygoing" all-in-all than women (though I'm sure we can find the exceptional male here-and-there who brings along his own collection of "drama" or "melodrama" in his own right).
Whatever the truth or lesser truth of said proposition about women in general: All-in-all, I still desire being with and around women though.
This gets so old. I found men easier to live with because my house had one bathroom, and men spend less time getting ready. Also, most were so happy to have home cooked meals they happily did dishes, which I hate.
The were also out more and came home to crash. They also had the skill sets that I didn't, like fixing faucets and stuff.
Hardly a betrayal of my gender, just more of functional type of thing.
But go ahead and personalize (and demonize) it so you can whine more.
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I was also extremely close to his mom and I never had had a real mother figure in my life... and so when I broke it off I was really missing her.. I broke her heart probably more than my ex, to be completely honest. There were many, many times that I missed them... but what is so awesome about my husband, is that I could talk about it with him... he loved me unconditionally and accepted everything about me, including those feelings. 
