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My parents divorced a year or two after I moved out. My mother wrote me a melodramatic letter to break the news. I guess she thought I would be devastated, whereas I could not possibly care less.
The divorce became another piece of the puzzle, to be assembled with all the rest and form the true picture of the 18 years I spent at home.
My mother was (and still is) obsessed with my sister. My father felt rejected once my sister arrived on the scene. I believe he eventually comforted himself with the notion that when his children left home, he'd get his wife back.
It didn't work out that way. He filed for divorce.
What you need is a big hug not a big lecture. They will be your parents no matter what. If it is possible love them both. It is quiet uneasy at the beginning but life will bounce back to normal. Big hug Take care.
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Divorce is hardest on children age 3 to teen years but even as an adult it's very tough. My older sister divorced her husband when my niece and nephew were late teens and early 20s and it still was hard for them. A few years down the road and they have accepted it and things are better.
It is very hard to have the world you know be changed so dramatically. I am an oldest child of divorced parents and it was so hard on us kids. We didn't get any say in anything and it changed my mind so much about trust and marriage that I didn't get married until I was 32 although we had been together for almost 10 years.
Maybe you need to talk to a therapist just to sort out your feelings. The best thing you can do for your younger brothers is be there for them, take them places where they can talk without the 'rents. You may have step-parental units in the future, I've had multiple, couple stepmothers and one short-term stepdad. Life goes on because divorce is a fact of life.
BTW my own marriage is now longer than my parents, having a great partner is one of the best things in life.
Stay close to your siblings, now and in the future.
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