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Old 03-12-2016, 12:04 PM
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Originally Posted by WsupBruh View Post
I'm a 25 yr old male living in the Bay Area, I have a job and I'm volunteering at two non-profit organizations. I've graduated from college and will plan to go to grad school next year. My problem is, my life feels boring and it seems to repeat itself everyday. I work and volunteer, and then I finish off the day by going to the gym and then go home and relax. My social life is basically non existent, I feel like I have no friends, and nobody every gives me a call or text unless they need something. Never had a girlfriend, online dating is not really getting me anywhere. I feel an inner frustration and I don't know what to do about it. It feels like I am stuck and suffocating. I'm just unsure of my life's purpose and where I am headed to in life. I never really get invited to anywhere. I can get extremely envious of seeing other people's lives outside, and in social media. Everyone seems to always have an abundance of friends and things to do and seem happy and have a significant other who cares about them. I have always been rejected by women, the "friends" I had were all fake, and I experienced a lot of shortcomings in my life. Sometimes I just don't feel motivated to get out of bed and would rather just sleep all day, I constantly feel fatigued and tired and dazed. Does anyone else feel this way? I want to turn my life around! I'm tired of being a loser!
You suffer from depression. Plain and simple. It's a chemical process in your brain that is causing your negative thoughts and distorted, black-and-white thinking (see above).

Those thought and perceptions are NOT real.

Research depression treatments (natural and pharmaceutical) and get to work on improving your mood and changing your perceptions. That is LITERALLY all you need to do, and then I promise, it will all come together for you.

When you are feeling better, start reaching out to people and inviting them to do stuff, instead of waiting to be invited. Plan a happy hour meet up, host a dinner party, get together a 5K team and run a charity race.

Be thankful that you have so much good stuff going on in your life!
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Old 03-12-2016, 01:59 PM
Location: Subconscious Syncope, USA (Northeastern US)
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Aside from the possibility of a mental/emotional issue, it could also be a physical issue, like:

a thyroid problem or other gland-based disorder
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Before approaching this from a mental problem standpoint, express your physical symptoms to an Internist. If you have ever had tattoos or piercings, ever dabbled with IV drugs or been in a situation where you came/could have come into blood to blood contact with someone or something - get tested for hepatitis B and C. Sometimes sharing a razor or toothbrush with someone just once is enough to transmit a nasty virus.

There are plenty of medical reasons to be experiencing severe fatigue, and all of them can effect the way you view society at large by effecting your mental and emotional state as a by-product of the disease.

Sometimes just stepping out into the sunshine and fresh air can change the way your day is going. Again, not mental but a vitamin D deficiency and/or lack of oxygen to the brain.

Best wishes!

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