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I'll be going to my high school senior prom with a good friend (just as friends). She's in college, so she has been to prom. Anyways, any tips for the big night? I didn't go to junior prom, and nobody who has been to prom ever told me what the night is like or given me any advice. Some questions I have are:
1) Should I go with her to pick out her dress, or should she go without me? Am I even supposed to see her in the dress before that night?
2) Should I rent a limo or think of another way we should arrive besides a car? I want to make her 2nd prom and my 1st memorable for her and me.
Those are the main questions I have, but any other advice for the night in general would be appreciated.
I'll be going to my high school senior prom with a good friend (just as friends). She's in college, so she has been to prom. Anyways, any tips for the big night? I didn't go to junior prom, and nobody who has been to prom ever told me what the night is like or given me any advice. Some questions I have are:
1) Should I go with her to pick out her dress, or should she go without me? Am I even supposed to see her in the dress before that night?
2) Should I rent a limo or think of another way we should arrive besides a car? I want to make her 2nd prom and my 1st memorable for her and me.
Those are the main questions I have, but any other advice for the night in general would be appreciated.
IMHO, most girls like to pick out their dress with girl friends or their mother. It does not matter if you see the dress in advance. However, it is nice to be surprised by the "whole package" on prom night, the beautiful dress & fancy hair & makeup on your beautiful friend. She may even already have a beautiful dress that she plans to wear to prom.
Unless you are sharing the cost of a limo with many friends IMHO it is just too expensive and unnecessary to rent a limo. In my city it would easily cost $500 to $1,000 (depending on size of the limo, length of time rented, etc). Save that money for college.
Remember, this is just a prom, while you want it to be fun it is not a wedding. Also, she is just a friend so it is not like you want to really impress the woman who you hope to marry & be the mother of your children in the future.
IMHO, it is better to go with at least another couple or two so you will have more people to talk with and dance with at the prom. When my kids went they often went in groups of at least 10 or 12 people.
Just relax and have fun. In most areas, the boy buys the girl some type of corsage that will match her dress.
IMHO, most girls like to pick out their dress with girl friends or their mother. It does not matter if you see the dress in advance. However, it is nice to be surprised by the "whole package" on prom night, the beautiful dress & fancy hair & makeup on your beautiful friend. She may even already have a beautiful dress that she plans to wear to prom.
Unless you are sharing the cost of a limo with many friends IMHO it is just too expensive and unnecessary to rent a limo. In my city it would easily cost $500 to $1,000 (depending on size of the limo, length of time rented, etc). Save that money for college.
Remember, this is just a prom, while you want it to be fun it is not a wedding. Also, she is just a friend so it is not like you want to really impress the woman who you hope to marry & be the mother of your children in the future.
IMHO, it is better to go with at least another couple or two so you will have more people to talk with and dance with at the prom. When my kids went they often went in groups of at least 10 or 12 people.
Just relax and have fun. In most areas, the boy buys the girl some type of corsage that will match her dress.
When it comes time for me to rent a tux, can I ask her what color dress she is wearing so that I can match the tux (and also pick out a corsage for her)?
No, you don't go with her to pick out her dress. She may want you to coordinate your tux accessories (tie, cummerbund) in a complimentary color, ask her. Personally, I like traditional black, but that's a personal choice. You'll also need to know the color of her dress to order a corsage.
Around here, kids get together for dinner before the prom, because despite the outrageous cost of tickets, no food is served, just non-alcoholic drinks. Afterwards, they travel together either via limo or bus, dividing the cost between several couples. Ask around to see if that's an option, because it's way too pricey to rent one on your own.
When it comes time for me to rent a tux, can I ask her what color dress she is wearing so that I can match the tux (and also pick out a corsage for her)?
When it comes time for me to rent a tux, can I ask her what color dress she is wearing so that I can match the tux (and also pick out a corsage for her)?
You can ask the color of her dress for the corsage, but it's unnecessary to match your tux. Just go with a classic tux, and you can't go wrong. (Personally I actually don't care for the matchy-matchy prom look anyway.)
Just smile at everyone, dance with your date but also ask people to dance who may not be the most popular, be polite and considerate, and have fun. Be sure to greet the chaperones politely.
Coordinating your tux and flowers with your date's dress is a good idea.
If you drive your car or your family's car, get it washed and detailed, inside and out, before you pick up your date. Avoid playing rap or hard rock while you're driving to and from prom.
Escort your date to the car, open the door for her, help her in - or at least offer an arm; don't grab her or attempt to put her in manually - then carefully close the door, making sure not to catch the edge of her dress in the door. Reverse the process when you arrive at your destination - help the young lady out, again, opening her door and offering an arm to assist her - no grabbing or pulling. When you reach the prom site, open the door for her and allow her to enter first (don't be surprised if she catches the door behind her and also holds it for you). Walk beside her, not in front of her or behind her.
These are old-fashioned good manners, and some would say they are a bit sexist - but you can do the same for anyone whom you happen to be with, regardless of gender. It's just being considerate, and when someone is wearing their finest attire and it's a very special occasion, special care is required.
In some communities, arriving at prom in a splashy way is a big deal. If this is the case where you live, be creative. Perhaps you could have a magnetic sign made to go on the car door (passenger side, so she'll be sure to see it), reading "PROM-MOBILE", or attach flowers or bunting or other decor to the car. Just don't go overboard or spend every dime you have.
In general, people who are out of high school and coming back for a prom is uncomfortable. Take that into account and be very attentive to her. As an example, if she wants to go after an hour and a half, then do so.
My only advice is to try and not set your expectations too high. Just think of it as dressing up and going to a fun party with a friend. Most likely it will not be all that wonderful or memorable. I'm not trying to be a downer, I just think that's the reality of it. If you expect less, you may be pleasantly surprised.
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