Staring contest

[seain dublin]

Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life

"The person you live with"??

Are you talking about your husband???

Wondering that was well.

Fluffy, why so vague? You have mentioned you have a husband, or did you take in a renter?

As others have said maybe something is wrong with him, it sounds like this is recent. You have been married quite awhile, don't you find it odd to see a change in behavior?

Perhaps go to the doctor and have him checked out.

I was in a restaurant once where people thought a man was drunk, he was going into a diabetic coma. Thankfully the person I was with recognized this and got some sugar in him while waiting for the paramedics.

[gelofogo]

Could also be aspie--they sometimes "check out" while staring at an object, even if it's a person. That's usually harmless.

If your cat is freaked out, I'd pay attention. I firmly believe Animals Know.

I'm bothered that he (he?) deflects with a weak response such as "what, I can't look at you?"

That tells me he's aware he's doing it, and he's deceiving either you or himself about it.

[thinkalot]

Dump him. Do you want to spend the rest of your life living like that?

[ControlJohnsons]

simple.. there is always a solution to every situation. have a small pocket sized mirror at all times, when you catch him staring, point the mirror at him. after a few weeks, he will stop. not only will you be relieved of this behavior, he will thank you for helping him on something he may not be able to control on a conscious level. you are basically training him with the mirror technique.. over time, the subconscious will make itself known that it is unacceptable behavior. his subconscious has not let his consciousness realize this.

[convextech]

Originally Posted by fluffythewondercat

What did you do about it?

I've not had one, but if you've had that many discussions about it, then he simply doesn't care what you say and therefore has no respect for you.


So, that said, the next time he does it, I would say, "That's it! I'm done. Either you go, or I will, but I've had enough."


Maybe that will shock him into quitting. If that doesn't do it, it would be over for me. I don't pander to disrespect.