Should I call my Mother? (person, member, present, senior)
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She left when I was a child. Never really called me that much, unless she needed something. About 2 years ago, she attempted to contact me thru (that social media site that everyone knows about, but we are not allowed to talk about here) I hesitantly started communicating with her. Last year around this time she sent me a communication, calling me names. Names that represent the south end of a farm animal. Along with many more. I asked her why, she said it was because I did not wish here a Happy Mothers Day as well as a Happy Birthday. I attempted to convince her that I am not accustomed to remembering nor celebrating Mothers Day. That was also the first time I found out when her birthday was.
Should I call?
If you are wondering, 33M, she is 60-ish (don't really know)
Why would you attempt to convince her? She knows, she just doesn't care.
She has unrealistic expectations and sounds foul if she's getting mad about the fact that you didn't meet it.
OP, you need to start developing healthy boundaries. [In response to the original question, you should not. Mother's Day is about the appreciation and acknowledgments of their sacrifices and efforts. From what you've said, she's not a mother in that regard. ]
A mother who leaves her child doesn't deserve recognition.
Go stop by a senior center or nursing home and give hugs to loads of appreciating seniors who would love the company. You'd get lots of free smiles in return.
I wouldn't. She is being incredibly disrespectful. She wasn't there for you when you needed her, she set the tone for this relationship - that you would only keep in touch in the loosest way. If she wanted you to acknowledge her special days she should have acted like a parent.
She hasn't earned your attention. And she hurts you.
If my mother left me when I was a kid then I think that is it... I would not convince either call. Regarding mother's day I would tell her " since I did not have a mother I don't have no clue about mothers day ta ta byee"
She left when I was a child. Never really called me that much, unless she needed something. About 2 years ago, she attempted to contact me thru (that social media site that everyone knows about, but we are not allowed to talk about here) I hesitantly started communicating with her. Last year around this time she sent me a communication, calling me names. Names that represent the south end of a farm animal. Along with many more. I asked her why, she said it was because I did not wish here a Happy Mothers Day as well as a Happy Birthday. I attempted to convince her that I am not accustomed to remembering nor celebrating Mothers Day. That was also the first time I found out when her birthday was.
Should I call?
If you are wondering, 33M, she is 60-ish (don't really know)
No. She is abusive and is trying to guilt you into creating a fantasy that will partially absolve her of her own guilt for leaving you.
If your best, most beloved friend told you this exact same story and asked the same question, what would you tell her? Be your own best friend, take care of yourself, and steer clear of her, now and in the future.
She left when I was a child. Never really called me that much, unless she needed something. About 2 years ago, she attempted to contact me thru (that social media site that everyone knows about, but we are not allowed to talk about here) I hesitantly started communicating with her. Last year around this time she sent me a communication, calling me names. Names that represent the south end of a farm animal. Along with many more. I asked her why, she said it was because I did not wish here a Happy Mothers Day as well as a Happy Birthday. I attempted to convince her that I am not accustomed to remembering nor celebrating Mothers Day. That was also the first time I found out when her birthday was.
Should I call?
If you are wondering, 33M, she is 60-ish (don't really know)
Yes.
All people make mistakes. Some make terrible mistakes. Your mother made a terrible mistake in life and wants to rectify it. What's more, it sounds as if your mother might have emotional issues. Maybe, maybe not.
Be the charitable person in your mother's troubled life. The time will come when she's not around and you will be grateful you were.
Sounds like a rather pathetic soul. Do the right thing. Call her. I would give anything to call mine and we certainly had our ups and downs.
My SIL is a real miserable, mean person (she's 94) but I just turn the other cheek and don't twist myself into knots about her.
I used to work with a woman who, when someone was criticizing someone she would just smile and say 'Be nice." She died a young woman (40's or so) her name was Brenda.
Spontaneously, some of her friends just wrote "Be nice" on post it notes and stuck them on cubicles and walls around the office. Just gave you a good feeling to walk by and see them and remember her.
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