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My kids forgot. Yep, completely. I was pissed, because they're old enough to know better, and I had been running myself ragged for them all week between end-of-year school obligations and preparations for summer. I got up, went for a hike by myself, and called my mom from the car. We commiserated over teenagers, and she reminded me that I was pretty darn awful at that age, but I have been blessed with mostly terrific kids. It brought me up short. When I got home, it was obvious that they all felt terrible about their oversight, and I remembered my own mom's wise counsel. I told them all was forgiven, because life's too short to hold a grudge, and we had a nice afternoon and evening together.
My kids forgot. Yep, completely. I was pissed, because they're old enough to know better, and I had been running myself ragged for them all week between end-of-year school obligations and preparations for summer. I got up, went for a hike by myself, and called my mom from the car. We commiserated over teenagers, and she reminded me that I was pretty darn awful at that age, but I have been blessed with mostly terrific kids. It brought me up short. When I got home, it was obvious that they all felt terrible about their oversight, and I remembered my own mom's wise counsel. I told them all was forgiven, because life's too short to hold a grudge, and we had a nice afternoon and evening together.
Glad you resolved it and had a nice day, but I don't buy they "forgot". How could you? It's in your face in every store you go into, on TV, etc. I really don't see how one could forget Mother's Day, kind of like saying "Oh I forgot it was Christmas".
It was more that they lost track of time and before they knew it, they had run out of time to do something. It happens. I've been guilty of the same thing.
Glad you resolved it and had a nice day, but I don't buy they "forgot". How could you? It's in your face in every store you go into, on TV, etc. I really don't see how one could forget Mother's Day, kind of like saying "Oh I forgot it was Christmas".
Teens aren't necessarily going into stores every day. And yes, they think mostly about stuff that revolves around themselves. It's the nature of the beast. They felt bad which is indicative of it clearly being an oversight not a snub. It happens. I forgot my son's birthday once amidst a lot of other stuff going on. I felt terrible .
I wouldn't say anything. If he didn't think enough of you to do more than he did, you can't MAKE him think more of you. Just file it away in your brain and sneak something nasty like X-lax into his food. You'll feel better.
My husband had the kids make something for me when they were little but since I'm not his mother I quit expecting anything from him once they got older. He was never great at gift giving; I learned to lower my expectations.
Sadly this is where I am as well. My DH has made it very clear that Mothers Day is for HIS mom and since I am not his mom, he will do nothing. I got a half hearted "Happy Mothers Day" when I came back from grocery shopping and brought lunch for everyone. It isn't worth the fight or the let down. My oldest daughter is almost six and is at the point where she will do something herself.
I don't think the OP is out of line. There is a wide gulf between doing nothing and expecting to be the Queen for the day. Most of my mom friends merely want some sort of acknowledgement, some effort. And to find out that more effort was put towards a sister than you? That has to sting more than getting nothing.
I didn't grow up here but where im from, we also celebrate Mother's Day but I never remembering it being such a big deal. I tell my husband on Valentine's Day ,Mother's Day even birthdays please don't spend a bunch of money on on expensive flowers...lol.
I'm a big believer in appreciating each other all year around instaed , and I don't need a special day to show it. If my kids want to make me something, that's great. But I would never be upset if my husband didn't get me gift of some sort
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