Why are women not more supportive of each other? (boyfriend, sister, girls)
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Well to be fair women usually sell themselves as the "fairer sex" and inherently more understanding and nurturing than men.
Though honesty I fail to see it. We may do things differently but in the end women can be so mean and cruel it really makes me sad.
The term "fairer sex" refers to prettiness not equality.
And if you are having issues with all of one subset of people in your life, be they women, or co-workers, or whatever, at some point you need to take a really hard look at yourself. And maybe don't call yourself HoneyBunny, even as a screenname, it seems to imply you think of yourself in a certain way that is unappealing, especially in the work place, to women who have had to work hard to get where they are.
Because they are insecure, envious, lacking in self-confidence, petty, shallow, backstabbers.
OR
Because those seeking support aren't deserving of support.
The rest of us are supportive - when support is warranted. I believe guys can be the exact same way.
I think you're right. If you're secure and basically happy yourself, you support others. If you're not, you don't. It's sad how shallow and petty some can be--even older women! I see it at work. You would think they would have grown out of it by now.
I've just had my fill of other women who get involved with horrible men who use them and discard them repeatedly, over and over. I've no support for them at all, because it's a pattern that plays out over their lives and they will not listen to anyone telling them the truth of it. They want my support in their stupidity, and I'm sorry, but I just can't do that. If she doesn't have any more brains than to accept being treated like something he stepped in I've no use for her.
The term "fairer sex" refers to prettiness not equality.
And if you are having issues with all of one subset of people in your life, be they women, or co-workers, or whatever, at some point you need to take a really hard look at yourself. And maybe don't call yourself HoneyBunny, even as a screenname, it seems to imply you think of yourself in a certain way that is unappealing, especially in the work place, to women who have had to work hard to get where they are.
The OP can call herself whatever she wants. HoneyBunny is fine.
YOUR snide comment is a perfect example of witchiness.
Last edited by amman; 05-15-2016 at 03:16 PM..
Reason: changed opinion
Seems to be a rite of passage, as progressing thru life and accepting varying dynamics of humanity.
I support persons and tend to veer from certain phases that persons may be exhibiting. Its better that way.
One thing that has resonated is that when you get to the point where you care more about the person then what they wear or how much or little they make, you get the mentor passage rites. To be that one person who can influence in a positive way. For some persons it comes early, for others never.
treat people fairly and kindly and remember:
In conversation always ask: Is it true, is it Kind, Is it necessary? If any of them ring false, then its best to remain quiet.
Meanwhile, grizzly bears and great white sharks have nothing on the average 9th grade girl in terms of sheer viciousness.
Why are 9th grade girls nasty these days?
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Originally Posted by Honeybunny87
We may do things differently but in the end women can be so mean and cruel it really makes me sad.
How often towards men in your experience?
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Originally Posted by Canaletto 1697
The sisterhood thing is a myth; especially when the other woman wants your man, your job or whatever. You don't have to DO anything to **** off another woman.
How often do women attempt to take another woman's man these days?
Now yes I realize there are nice supportive women, but they certainly seem to be few and far between. I am 29 and have only ever had a very few good supportive girlfriends. I do like girl time when I can have it, but it is not that often. I have always had plenty of guy friends and I have a wonderful husband, but finding girlfriends that truly support each other no matter how "pretty" or intelligent they may be is so difficult.
I can't tell you how many times I have gone out with girls from work only for them to go on about how some woman is a "****" or is wearing something awful or some other superficial reason especially other women at work. I normally just don't say anything and won't go out with them again. I don't know why but I have been a target of mean girls since middle school, but I thought that kind of stuff would be behind me after high school but nope even at clubs and work either they bully me or they try to drag me into their crap. I had one job run by two women who treated me and except a select few other girls like their servants. I even remember when I was pregnant and had a miscarriage and called to tell them I would be out one of them just said "well it better not be to long" without any "oh I am so sorry" or some kind of condolences.
Again I know it's not every woman but it really amazes me how often women are not supportive or sympathetic to other women's plight.
because we live in america, where one man or woman's misery = another man or woman's gain.
As a woman today you have to be careful when being "nice" to other women in general. The females at work might like to gossip to create trouble or undermine you if you're higher than them on the totem pole.Or if you're the one trying to rise up the totem, some biotch above you might do everything to sabotage your growth - to the point where you physically have to leave to escape the hate. One good friend had a great job where she kept her head down, made friends with the higher ups and produced great work. The envious biotch coworkers had a clique and refused to work as a team with this lady. She eventually left the company and got a promotion elsewhere. Those same envious biotches are still at the old company kvetching away how they never get raises/promotions. Gee I wonder why now...
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