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My mom is not talking to me. I try to initiate conversation through text since I am working today, but only responding with 1 word answers. Yesterday didn't talk to me at all.
Mom is upset that I didn't go to the family Memorial Day picnic.
Not sure what to do.
Don't even pay attention to it. If it bugs you, she can control you with it. if it doesn't bother you, she will probably stop (until she figures another way to manipulate you).
If your parents didn't beat you mercilessly growing up then you should show up at "FAMILY" holidays. Notice I said "FAMILY" holidays. Not daily, not monthly, not foreign nations holidays. "FAMILY" holidays are for families and if you are not going to show up you need to explain why, like an adult.
"...How sharper than a serpent's tooth it is to have a thankless child!"
It's a picnic for crying out loud. He misses one function and all of a sudden he's a thankless child? Get a grip you don't own your children they have a right to a life outside of their parents.
The OP wanted to go to the gathering.
The soon-to-be-wife did not.
SO the OP did what she wanted him to do, yet again.
Maybe mom is tired of the OP always doing whatever he need to do to keep the peace with the soon-to-be-wife.
The OP complains about the soon-to-be-wife all the time, and how she has to have her way.
Don't even pay attention to it. If it bugs you, she can control you with it. if it doesn't bother you, she will probably stop (until she figures another way to manipulate you).
I think his mom set an example of a manipulative, overbearing woman, and that's the same kind of relationship he settled into with his fiance.
Sounds like he's marrying someone just like dear ol' mom.
You're supposed to be a grown man. Live your life and don't let anyone make you feel guilty about not attending a family function. Mom sounds like she's in a power struggle with your girlfriend to see who can get you to do their bidding. Sack up! Geez.
If your parents didn't beat you mercilessly growing up then you should show up at "FAMILY" holidays. Notice I said "FAMILY" holidays. Not daily, not monthly, not foreign nations holidays. "FAMILY" holidays are for families and if you are not going to show up you need to explain why, like an adult.
"...How sharper than a serpent's tooth it is to have a thankless child!"
He's being manipulated by both mom and girlfriend. I can't even fathom what their marriage is going to be like!!!!!!
I'm a mom to a houseful of kids and if one doesn't attend a function, I don't go toddler and pitch a fit or in her case, go silent and guilt them into submission. They are adults, with their own lives, and they should be allowed to come and go as they please.
You have a lot of issues with your mother, I mean a lot of issues.
Nothing wrong with taking a break from communication. If your mother can't understand that you work in the medical field and as already stated many who work in hospitals work holidays, well too bad.
She is playing you like a violin with her one word responses, and you're falling for it. A little "time out" will do you both some good.
Would she prefer you quit your job and move back in with her? You had to work, end of story.
She didn't say she had to work.
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