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My cousin and my brother both just graduated college, and they are a month apart in age. My aunt is hosting a big graduation party for our cousin, and she asked the cousin if the party could be for him and my brother, and my cousin refused, saying that he wanted it to be his party also. This pisses off my brother and me, and we think it is extremely selfish that even though they share the same extended family, our cousin has to have all the glory. My brother is by no means a selfish person, but this to him is over the line, and he will more than likely not be attending our cousin's party to send him a direct message. Fellow CD members, how would you react to a situation like this? Do you think it is rude and selfish of our cousin to insist that the party only be in his honor, or is it perfectly understandable? Why?
What is the purpose of this party? Drunken debauchery? A gift grab? Your aunt entertaining her son's friends alone? Were you planning to help pay for this party?
If your brother is hoping for gifts, he could just send out a graduation announcement (which just lets people know about his accomplishment without inviting them to anything. Saves you the trouble/expense of paying for a party. You can get beautiful ones made at places like Zazzle or Shuttlerfly with a photo and info about the grad. I've gotten quite a few of those in recent years. I always send a check. The least expensive place I know to get nice ones is the photo center at Costco. Product Details | Costco Photo Center
Or your brother could go to his cousin's party wearing a T-shirt that says "I graduated, too!" Did he get better grades than the cousin? He could put the name of his degree and his GPA on the back. Not that I would recommend this ...
If the party guests would all be members of the extended family, then yes I think your cousin should have included your brother. But if the guests would be members of their respective friendship circles (and assuming that these circles don't intersect), then it makes more sense to have separate parties.
If your cousin and your brother were on friendly terms, it would make sense to do the separate parties, but then also have another get-together with just them and you and your aunt and your parents.
If the party guests would all be members of the extended family, then yes I think your cousin should have included your brother. But if the guests would be members of their respective friendship circles (and assuming that these circles don't intersect), then it makes more sense to have separate parties.
If your cousin and your brother were on friendly terms, it would make sense to do the separate parties, but then also have another get-together with just them and you and your aunt and your parents.
The party would be both extended family and friends.
Why can't your parents throw a party for their son, your brother, like your aunt is throwing one for her son, your cousin? They can be two different weekends. Did they both go to the same college? Are they graduating the same day?
Why can't your parents throw a party for their son, your brother, like your aunt is throwing one for her son, your cousin? They can be two different weekends. Did they both go to the same college? Are they graduating the same day?
Unless there is an obvious reason like same college/same day, it makes no sense to have a joint celebration. And your aunt should not have said anything about it to your brother. That was the rude part.
Meh. I don't blame him for not wanting to share the party.
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