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You are not going to meet people until you join something. This is not the same thing as "hanging out" here and there - pubs, clubs, etc.
If you are in the UK, at least go down to your local library and join that, and check on the bulletin board there for talks, etc., that you could take in. (this will work in the US, too)
Most small UK areas have a community center where things that are going on are posted. Ask about walking groups - most UK areas have a local one going, and these are excellent for social interaction which is pleasant but non-committal.
What's surprising about going along to lectures, going to church, etc., is that although you might not actually be there with friends, just the effect of the small bit of social interaction will make you feel better and more like you are a part of something.
I can only give my perspective of what this might mean if you are in the midwest states.
Rural areas are tough, you can be an outsider for a very long time. Time, and patience, attending church, or school, and having a local part time job.
If you are going to college, find events to attend and groups that do community projects. Look for a project that helps the area, you'll meet positive folks. Join them, volunteer. Help the unfortunate, it will be very good for your soul. Make friends with old people...don't limit yourself, friends come in all packages.
Hanging out at a coffee shops, and cafe's are a good way to slowly acclimate if you go routinely, like everyday after classes, someone will strike up a conversation.
Hanging in bars, unless they are having some sort of social would be my last resort, until you know the climate and maybe a couple of folks to nod your head at or hang out with. Rural doesn't mean you'll automatically be safe. Rural areas can have their bad elements just like an unknown urban area can.
Rural folks will travel to church fairs, community get togethers and you'll likely meet plenty if you start going to church.
hope these ideas help, be patient. If you are feeling depressed go talk to someone at your college campus, your advisor or student health and get some help ok. here are a few links that might help
Every church I've gone to has been mostly populated with old biddies. That is unlikely to be a place to meet people. Clubs could be a good place, however, in my experience people don't join clubs much. That leaves coworkers, which is best to proceed with caution. Sorry, but it's a bleak outlook in rural areas.
You have to make your own entertainment in small towns and rural areas. If you can't, you're better off going back to a major city with a lot of pay entertainment options.
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