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Does it make me a bad person for not bothering to visit extended family (aunts, cousins, etc.) when I visit their city for work? My aunt gave me a hard time when I let it slip that I visited San Antonio without seeing her. I just don't see her very often and she doesn't play a big role in my life. It isn't that I dislike her. I just don't care about her, to be frank. That's how I feel about other extended family as well.
My aunt gave me a hard time when I let it slip that I visited San Antonio without seeing her. I just don't see her very often and she doesn't play a big role in my life. It isn't that I dislike her. I just don't care about her, to be frank. That's how I feel about other extended family as well.
She might play a bigger role, if you would spend some time with her!
I would have spared an hour or so for a quick visit and/or a meal, but that's me.
Does it make me a bad person for not bothering to visit extended family (aunts, cousins, etc.) when I visit their city for work? My aunt gave me a hard time when I let it slip that I visited San Antonio without seeing her. I just don't see her very often and she doesn't play a big role in my life. It isn't that I dislike her. I just don't care about her, to be frank. That's how I feel about other extended family as well.
Well, it depends.
Often, people do not have the time to visit relatives if they are traveling for business. But, if you have the time, or travel to that city often, it would be nice to occasional make arrangements to see your aunt. Meeting her for breakfast or an evening meal together, whether that is once a year or once every six months or whatever, would make your relationship stronger. After all she did grow up with one of your parents and, presumably, is close to them.
You are not a bad person. If your schedule permits maybe you can do a quick meal or even a phone call from your hotel room. When you travel for business, your schedule is often regimented and you may not have time for visiting. How often does she come to visit you?
I would at least make time for a meal with her. It isn't about being a bad person...but its just the right thing to do (unless you have a bad relationship with her).
I touch base with the relative to let them know I'll be in the area and my schedule is tight.
My last trip I invited my cousin to join us for ziplining and her mom to lunch after. When time is tight it's sometimes easier to invite them to your existing plans. Tried to hook up with nephew and GF but there was no free time.
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I guess I'm a heartless bastard because I just don't care enough to visit, even if hurts the person's feelings. I'd rather hang out on CD or watch TV or something.
I guess I'm a heartless bastard because I just don't care enough to visit, even if hurts the person's feelings. I'd rather hang out on CD or watch TV or something.
It's a choice. I learned the importance of family when my husband died. There are a lot of things I would rather do, but I find keeping in touch more important.
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I guess I'm a heartless bastard because I just don't care enough to visit, even if hurts the person's feelings. I'd rather hang out on CD or watch TV or something.
I wonder if you also would rather "hang out on CD or watch TV or something" rather than visit your parents. Do you care if you hurt their feelings?
Last edited by germaine2626; 08-03-2016 at 11:41 AM..
Does it make me a bad person for not bothering to visit extended family (aunts, cousins, etc.) when I visit their city for work? My aunt gave me a hard time when I let it slip that I visited San Antonio without seeing her. I just don't see her very often and she doesn't play a big role in my life. It isn't that I dislike her. I just don't care about her, to be frank. That's how I feel about other extended family as well.
I'd just say it's nothing personal, but I was there for business and that is all.
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