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$300? That would be about 15-20 first dates for me in US dollars.
This is another good point (I can't believe I'm agreeing with Dissenter)...how many people choose either a movie or a full-fledged dinner as a first date?
Don't people typically start a bit smaller just to see if they like one another? If you two don't hit it off, it's awful to be stuck to the person's side in a theater for a couple of hours, both of you with your eyes latched to the screen and silently ticking off the minutes until it's over.
I always found coffee to be the traditional meet-for-the-first-time date and I always appreciated it as a suggestion (or I would suggest it myself), because it didn't latch me down to hours with the person on the chance we didn't get along, there wasn't that guilt of "he spent so much time and money on me and now I can't even think of kissing him closed-mouthed, ugh" (always a possibility), and it took the stress away as it was so casual. No need to go crazy buying a new outfit and doing everything to the nines, either.
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This is another good point (I can't believe I'm agreeing with Dissenter)...how many people choose either a movie or a full-fledged dinner as a first date?
Don't people typically start a bit smaller just to see if they like one another? If you two don't hit it off, it's awful to be stuck to the person's side in a theater for a couple of hours, both of you with your eyes latched to the screen and silently ticking off the minutes until it's over.
I always found coffee to be the traditional meet-for-the-first-time date and I always appreciated it, whether my date accepted my paying for my own cup or not, because it didn't latch me down to hours with the person on the chance we didn't get along, there wasn't that guilt of "he spent so much time and money on me and now I can't even think of kissing him closed-mouthed, ugh" (always a possibility), and it took the stress away as it was so casual. No need to go crazy buying a new outfit and doing everything to the nines, either.
95% of them for me and most people I know are going out for some drinks and talking, so depending on the night and the chemistry, it could be cheap, or not cheap. But when the chemistry is great, who the freak cares...
But movies aren't good first dates... but I don't think we were talking about "first dates" in general. The OP was talking about dating dating, not first dates in particular... or that is how I took it.
Don't worry about his finances, in a few weeks football season will be in full swing, and that will become his excuse for not having a girlfriend. New season, new reason.
After that, he'll bow out because it might have rained the night before the date and the rain might have frozen on the sidewalks, making it dangerous to do what the OP's prospective date had suggested, walking around the city.
95% of them for me and most people I know are going out for some drinks and talking, so depending on the night and the chemistry, it could be cheap, or not cheap. But when the chemistry is great, who the freak cares...
95% of first dates for you are either the movies or a full dinner? Just clarifying because by following up saying most people you know go out for drinks and talking, you're stating your first date M.O. as comparatively unusual. Which would make sense, actually.
A drink or two I can see and as you said, extending it IF things are all going great. Of which there is NO guarantee on a first date...that's what the first meet-up is for.
Who needs an excuse not to have girlfriend? Why not just drop it already. I never knew being single was such a bad thing.
Nobody does, and that's the point.
*The OP feels* he does. That's why he's making this girl's silly comment out to be malicious and beyond the pale. He has to, because he feels he has to have an excuse.
He's afraid to JUST say, "You know what? I actually don't want a girlfriend, period."
If he owned that there wouldn't even be this thread, actually.
None of us are saying the OP needs an excuse, we're saying the excuses he's pulling out of wherever in desperate denial are silly. Because they are.
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