Parents hate my fiance (wedding, senior, conversation, business)
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Ok but outbursts will look bad. As I keep saying , emergency room visit is record and if it is reported I caused this I got problems then and no lawyer can help me
So, you physically abused your mother and she had to visit the emergency room because of this. She should have called the police once you battered her.
I perform the duties once a month. But sure I go to an attorney but are all attorneys on the same page? There are attorneys who wil say thst I am breaching the contract of trustee and thst they will want to take me to court. I said that there are articles on the web thst say that a trustee can be sued
You cannot be sued once you have had yourself removed as a trustee. You can only be sued if you abuse your privileges while performing your trustee duties.
Hey OP, can you please send me your fiance's email address? I want to forward her this thread and warn her to run away before she gets into it any deeper with a drama king mama's boy and his drama queen mama.
Yes but like I said if she has an outburst of crying and she does that once in a while and if it got bad it is documented if she goes to the emergency room. So that is physical hurt at that point
NO IT IS NOT.
Stop whinging. She can't sue you for any of the things you're afraid of.
Are you beating her? Withholding her medication or food? Making her go without heat in winter? She's got no leg to stand on.
See a lawyer and get yourself removed from the trust. Change your phone number and don't give her a new one. MOVE if you have to. Don't have any contact with her. I did this in order to deal (or rather not have to deal) with my crazy mother and I guaran-dam-tee you that if she could have sued me, she would have.
People cut ties with abusive relatives ALL THE TIME. They don't get sued. Its not a thing you can be sued for. Even if you WERE her guardian and not just her trustee, you could still get a lawyer and get out from under that as well. A lawyer can tell you which agency or agencies to shove her off on. Do that as soon as possible and move on.
You are correct, Denonsoundmn, you are hopelessly trapped. Nothing more you can do about it.
Good luck!
Rich
That seems to be what he wants to hear...and believe.
The only reason his parent might hate his fiance (in my opinion) is because she knows any reasonable person would tell her where to go.
It's not the fiance mom hates...it's the possible loss of her lil go boy...the one she can manipulate and scare into doing what he's told. Quite sad, to say the least, especially for the OP who will probably have nothing more than his controlling mom in his life for awhile yet.
OP, I work in a prestigious and very large org in a very regulated industry and we have a legal dept that has an office staffed with attorneys. I know a few of them and talked to them about your case. Their legal advice is that you're an idiot.
For the immediate fix, do not allow your fiancé to accompany you to visit your parents. You need to stop trying to make this work, as it is clear it will not. It sounds like your fiancé is part of the problem if she is arguing with your Mom.
Neither of these women are mature enough to put your feelings first and try to behave like rational adults. I'd really take a long look at this before marrying someone who behaves like you describe your Mom behaving.
Check out some links and videos that may give you insight on how to remove yourself as Trustee if you decide to do that. (links below)
But, also give some thought to figuring out a way to stop allowing your Mom to emotionally black mail you....so that you don't have to remove yourself, especially if you stand to inherit a good deal of money or property. (links below)
I am also providing links for you to research regarding how to deal with your Mom's emotional abuse and her disability and information that you may find helpful and supportive in your caregiver role. (links below)
Lastly, I second the suggestions made to get yourself into counseling and support groups. And, I also suggest consulting an attorney so that you understand your options.
OP, I work in a prestigious and very large org in a very regulated industry and we have a legal dept that has an office staffed with attorneys. I know a few of them and talked to them about your case. Their legal advice is that you're an idiot.
reread this post OP.
Believe it.
Stop all this nonsense and get on with your OWN life and your fiances if she's still around.
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