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Have you ever had family you have been around for many years, as time goes on they change. they stop feeling like they should be close to you, they dont want to help you. as a matter of fact, they will walk over you for themselves like its a competition. you may even see them treat others better than you, but you are told that you are supposed to love them. and they act irrational when they know its not good to be such a way, but they wont change. even if you do good to them, they dont appreciate it, and some family seem to only care about their close family i.e siblings\kids ect. anyone know what i mean ?
People grow and change over the years. They start their own family and of course that is their priority. That's normal. I used to hang out with my cousin, now we aren't even talking much on family gatherings. No hard feelings, it is just how life goes.
People grow and change over the years. They start their own family and of course that is their priority. That's normal. I used to hang out with my cousin, now we aren't even talking much on family gatherings. No hard feelings, it is just how life goes.
what about those who has stayed the same, loyal, there when ya need um, and would not change that.
Have you ever had family you have been around for many years, as time goes on they change. they stop feeling like they should be close to you, they dont want to help you. as a matter of fact, they will walk over you for themselves like its a competition. you may even see them treat others better than you, but you are told that you are supposed to love them. and they act irrational when they know its not good to be such a way, but they wont change. even if you do good to them, they dont appreciate it, and some family seem to only care about their close family i.e siblings\kids ect. anyone know what i mean ?
Some people are just selfish, They may become bitter from life for whatever reason and take on a "me vs. world" mentality. Sometimes there reasons are from traumatic experiences, or they got burned by someone.
Life experiences shape us in many ways. Sometimes people hang onto things they should let go, inhibiting positive growth too.
You can't expect the same relationships with family as when you were teenagers. Times change and so do people. As you age more time goes to immediate family and the others will be in the wedding/funeral category. That doesn't mean your feelings toward them has changed it's just that other things are now more important.
People change as they age/get experience/learn, some for the better, some worse.
You change too!
This is very wise. I would add that you cannot change others, only how you react. If people are unavailable, all you can do is accept that. And, be grateful for the good people in your life who ARE available. It took me a long time to accept this lesson. What else can you do? You can't chase anyone. Make contact every once in a while if you wish to, or let them go.
Well, I've been afraid of changin'
'Cause I've built my life around you
But time makes you bolder
Even children get older
And I'm getting older too
And I'm getting older too
Oh, take my love, take it down
Climb a mountain and turn around
Stevie Nicks
Landslide
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