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Originally Posted by bell235
i can't say no easily and two years ago my boss asked me if i wanted to be part of this volunteer group for a non profit organization. i said yes because i felt like i had to (i put networking on my goals on my performance evaluation and this was one of his suggestions). i've been a part of it for two years now but i don't want to be a part of it anymore. it is a financial commitment and a time commitment. in addition to that, we are supposed to bring people to these events we have and none of my friends/family ever want to go. it is just draining and i no longer want to be a part of it. how can i get out of this? it's hard because i don't have a real reason to no longer be part of the group....
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"I really hate to do this, but I have a personal time commitment that won't allow me to participate at the volunteer group anymore. I'm sorry!"
If he asks you what they are, just say it's personal. If he presses you, stand firm and let him know you don't have to tell him about your personal life. Just state it over and over again like a broken record if he doesn't get the message: "I'm sorry, but the commitment is a personal issue."
Your job is your job and what you do on your own time is none of your employer's business (as long as it's legal). If he keeps invading your personal life, you should contact an ethics line or something of the sort or go above him with the issue; either that, or look for another job in your spare time.
And if you're one of these people who can't stand to lie about things, don't worry--you're not lying! The personal time commitment is the time you need to yourself to get through life. Sometimes we take on too many things and it becomes unbearable. You need the downtime. That's the personal issue.
Also, it would probably be a good idea to try to start saying no sometimes when you need to (if you haven't already).
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Originally Posted by shamrock4
I still just really resent employees guilted into unpaid labor or donations. If you want to spend your off-work hours reading a book, going out with friends or watching a movie, that should totally be your choice.
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Right, I agree with this. It doesn't matter if he thinks you don't have much to do since you don't have a family so you should be doing something else like volunteering. That's his idea of what should be done. You are your own person and may not share that opinion. What you do on your own time is your choice and he needs to stay out of. If you want to sit around and do nothing all day on your days off--that's your choice! And your employer shouldn't be making judgments about you based on what you do outside of work (as long as you're not engaging in criminal activity). You do a good job at work and that is what they should base their judgment of you on.