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Someone I knew in high school died in the spring of this year. I found his obituary online and was saddened to see that only 2 people left condolences on it. So I left a condolence for him. It took all of five seconds to do this. A lot of people must see these obituaries, and this person died young enough to where there are still many people around who remember him. And I know for a fact everyone he went to high school remembers him because he was always teased very badly by everyone and everyone laughed at him. He had a degenerative illness that caused him to stutter.
I've also seen a few other obits where very few people left condolences. I just wonder why more people don't do this.
And no, this is NOT a social media post. Online obituaries are not considered social media.
Because leaving a note in an online obituary is practically meaningless to a grieving family (do they even see it?) I'm sure many people sent cards, flowers, went to the service, or reached out in other ways which are more of a condolence to his loved ones.
Last edited by fleetiebelle; 09-11-2016 at 09:10 AM..
Because leaving a note in an online obituary is practically meaningless to a grieving family. I'm sure many people sent cards, flowers, went to the service, or reached out in other ways which are more of a condolence to his loved ones.
It wasn't meaningless to me. And I did see the condolences left on my mother's obit when she died. Do you really think family wouldn't see that?
Also, I think it's great that people are offered a way to leave a condolence if they don't know about the funeral, didn't make it to the funeral or, in some cases, can't afford to send a $100 bouquet of flowers.
If I only knew them from high school, I'd feel weird to leave a comment. I know when my grandmother passed away a few years ago, we had no idea who left her most of the flowers and cards. It was weird because we had no way to thank these people.
If I only knew them from high school, I'd feel weird to leave a comment.
Well, perhaps you didn't have meaningful relationships with anyone in high school, but some people do. So they don't think it's weird to leave a comment.
I lost a close family member a few days ago. The family discussed this topic.
We decided not to create an online obituary or memorial page. We also decided not to publish one in the newspaper, due to the expense.
There won't be a funeral. She didn't want one.
So, do I understand correctly that you're complaining because "more people" didn't leave online condolences? Does that mean I'm abrogating some sort of social duty by not checking the online obits constantly for the names of the thousands of people I've known over my lifetime?
I lost a close family member a few days ago. The family discussed this topic.
We decided not to create an online obituary or memorial page. We also decided not to publish one in the newspaper, due to the expense.
There won't be a funeral. She didn't want one.
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Is it really THAT expensive to publish an obit in the newspaper? We published obits for everyone in our family who passed away. We also held funerals. My mom's funeral and burial was $30,000. But the obit was nothing in terms of money. Like, fifty bucks at the most, I think. A pretty negligible amount of money!
Is it really THAT expensive to publish an obit in the newspaper? We published obits for everyone in our family who passed away. We also held funerals. My mom's funeral and burial was $30,000. But the obit was nothing in terms of money. Like, fifty bucks at the most, I think.
$500 for about ten sentences. She did not want an obituary as she had been a victim of identity theft that took years to clear up.
My MIL did not believe in spending money on funerals. My FIL's ashes were scattered in a secret, remote place that meant a lot to both of them. Hers will be, too. We will be there.
Why would someone need to worry about identity theft after they passed away?
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