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I think this is the issue...and I hate to admit this...there aren't many things I can think of that are goals of mine. I will have to reflect on this and why it is this way...
That's definitely a thing with a milestone birthday like 40: that kind of reassessment of your life. I'm feeling it too--am I where I should be? Am I happy with where I am?
If you'd asked me at 20, I'd probably have said that at 40 I'd be married with kids. I'm not, and that's not really the life I want in the first place, but it's hard not to compare your choices with those of others and ponder if you could have made different ones.
That's definitely a thing with a milestone birthday like 40: that kind of reassessment of your life. I'm feeling it too--am I where I should be? Am I happy with where I am?
If you'd asked me at 20, I'd probably have said that at 40 I'd be married with kids. I'm not, and that's not really the life I want in the first place, but it's hard not to compare your choices with those of others and ponder if you could have made different ones.
This. This is part of what I feel.
Besides a better job I dont feel like life today is that much "better" than life at say, 15 years ago. But I look around and I do see friends who have made certain strides that have definitely made life better for them in various ways.
I am turning 40 in 6 weeks. I'll probably stay home with a bottle of wine, answering birthday emails and baking cakes/cookies/pies for my coworkers. No biggie to me and no anxiety.
Maybe because I celebrate my 31st bday every year for a while now
As far as goals/what I want out of life...sometimes I have a better idea of what I 'don't' want...not sure if that makes sense. I know I don't want to be overweight so the goal coming out of that would be 'to be at a healthy weight'. I know I don't want to be around negative people so the goal coming out of that would be to 'surround myself with more positive people'. And so on and so forth.
Speaking of negative people since this is the non-romantic section, I do recall when I turned 30 and had a small gathering...like 15 people at a friend's house. I didn't really want or care to do anything big or grand or whatever. I have a cousin that's like a sister to me that attended.
8 months later the cousin turns 30 and she throws a big party...with like 60 people showing up (most from out of town). Her mom (my aunt) is...well...I don't know how to describe her but I'll just say she 'loudly stated' during the party how great it was and that 'maybe one day *southkakkatlantan* could throw a 30th birthday party this nice' [with a smirk as if to say too bad you don't have friends like this]...now this is the type of thing I don't want to be around...now, on my 40th birthday, on any other milestone day, or a regular day at that.
My goodness! Do people actually remember what they did on their 40th birthdays?
I couldn't tell you what I did on any of mine.
Anniversaries (marriage) are different. Those I remember. (Insert lovey-dovey heart here.)
Shalom,
Mahrie.
I do. My now-ex-husband decided we should have a big backyard barbecue for my 40th. He made it clear that it really wasn't to celebrate my birthday, but that it was just the excuse to have a big party and invite all his bar friends.
I remember standing in front of the bathroom mirror, slightly tipsy, and thinking, "I'm 40. Life is short. This marriage is not going to get better, EVER. I am done."
I am turning 40 in 6 weeks. I'll probably stay home with a bottle of wine, answering birthday emails and baking cakes/cookies/pies for my coworkers. No biggie to me and no anxiety.
Maybe because I celebrate my 31st bday every year for a while now
I do. My now-ex-husband decided we should have a big backyard barbecue for my 40th. He made it clear that it really wasn't to celebrate my birthday, but that it was just the excuse to have a big party and invite all his bar friends.
I remember standing in front of the bathroom mirror, slightly tipsy, and thinking, "I'm 40. Life is short. This marriage is not going to get better, EVER. I am done."
It took about another year for him to be gone.
Um...hmmm. Well now hopefully you are in a MUCH better place, so you can be glad that you had those thoughts on that day!
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