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I live alone and except for my marriage and two years' cohabitation prior, have for the most part. I am into my hobby - building/customizing model cars and have an enormous collection, of which I'm proud. I guess it's lack of someone to talk to; friends all busy, many loved ones gone. On occasion I'll go up to the bar and have a drink or two with a friend, but I've seen people turn to alcohol abuse, thinking that drinking will make their problems go away.
It doesn't hit me too often, but I get pangs from time to time.
That was a helluva game. Sorry either team had to lose. And I'm an Auburn fan, so I'm still in mourning over wetting the bed against Georgia.
Oh, wait. You had a question.
I think it is important to cultivate the ability to entertain oneself in life. Television is kind of empty because it is passive. You just sit there and watch. On the other hand, when you become a reader, you are never truly alone.
The other things? Explore interests. I'm pretty sure that there's something that interests you. If so, there's likely a group that does it. Bicycling, hiking, art, music, history, you name it. There you'll find like-minded people with whom you have something in common. Instant set of friends, with the possibility of a great deal more.
For the pangs that hit on occasion - I go out where there is a lot of people (like the Farmer's Market or Target), get overstimulated and annoyed then go back home and enjoy the quiet and solitude.
I also invite people over all the time for tea, beers, meals, etc even if it is just for an hour while they are out doing their day.
There were times in my single days that I felt lonely. I got a kitten I know a pet is not for everyone and it doesn't make up for a having another person around, but it did help me feel not so lonely.
My cat literally saved my life post divorce. She loves me and follows me around the house. I had a date last night and she said she liked how affectionate my cat was. I don't usually tell women I have a cat because they think its weird for some reason, but I'll probably always have either a cat and/or maybe a dog. Have to have something to keep me company if I'm going to be alone forever.
I'm trying to figure out more things that interest me. Its hard when there's no good meetups or other outlets where I live. Much of what I enjoy doing, I'm forced to do alone, such as watching football, travel, reading, etc. Though I love travel, I don't enjoy doing it alone because I'm alone all the time anyway. I want to be more social. Wish I was an extrovert. I think I could be if I could get over my fear of what people think or rejection (shyness). Anyway, taking a singles cruise for New Year's and going to Europe in May, so maybe all that will help.
When I'm feeling lonely.... Doesn't happen a lot because I relish my alone time, but...
-I call a close friend or start posting on FB things I know will generate discussion and conversation.
-Take my dogs for a walk or do some training
-Go for a run or a hike
-Clean
-Read a book. When I'm sad or lonely, I prefer escapist stuff like romances and mysteries
-Go out to a social restaurant - in Jersey it would be the local diner, where I'd inevitably be drawn into conversation with one of the old guys at the counter, doesn't work so much in Colorado.
-Write - loneliness is often inspiring for me.
I live in a "foreign" country don't really know anyone here, I have a few acquaintances but that's it. It's extremely hard living so far away from family etc.. I get lonely constantly.. I watch favourite series and go to the movies/mall.. On a Sunday I go to church on occasion.
Keeping yourself occupied is essential.. Find something that will take hours to partake in. You can't do anything else to fix it.
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I know a pet is not for everyone and it doesn't make up for a having another person around, but it did help me feel not so lonely.
