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That is just awful. And on top of all that, you are there yourself, while your husband is too ill to accompany you, that situation alone surely dictates you are there for some time-out, relief, to try and enjoy yourself a little bit. The mother in law was beyond thoughtless, and extremely exploitive. And your daughter and son-in-law should have rescued you.
I hope you talk about it so much that word gets back to her.
They were in the wrong. Your daughter was MORE in the wrong because she did not help you until you told/asked her for some help.
In my house, I don't like to have anyone clean up. I invited them, they are my guests. I do not make my guests do dishes. Sometimes my DIL will start cleaning up (they don't fly down to visit very often) and I tell her she doesn't have to do that but she continues. I tolerate that but do help at the same time.
I will stack the dishes, when I have guests, and tidy the piles...maybe run water in pans that will need some soaking. I deal with it when they leave.
You were seriously taken advantage of and they were incredibly rude.
They were very rude, especially since the OP is dealing with a seriously husband.
But you have to wonder between the daughter's actions and comments how did she get like that?
I have a cousin who has two daughters in their early 20s, these girls were spoiled and very self absorbed. They don't lift a finger when their mother needs help, my cousin makes comments to me about this but seems to not get she created the monster.
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Originally Posted by cheryjohns
You should have just put the dishes on the floor for the dog to lick clean. After the dog finished, put them in the cabinet. Then announce what you did, as you are leaving.
Don't go back Christmas (it's a trap).
I was thinking getting butter fingers, "oops, sorry".
When I was married we lived in the country. I had to see a dentist & my husband drove me to his cousins to wait for the appoint ntment, which she would then drive me to & yes, watch my son until I was done.
We chatted a bit but really didn't have much in common so I instead supervised her children & my son in the family room. I overheard her on the phone talking to someone that I wasn't doing anything. Apparently she thought I was there to clean her house while she put herself out for me.
That is so bizarre. Who does that? And why would you jump on in and finish? I'd help clean off the table. I'd offer to serve coffee or desert. But I would never just say "ok" and start doing the dishes.
I guess possibly you could feel flattered that they would feel comfortable enough to even ask... Cuz that takes some chutzpah.
The only thing I can think of that hasn't been said yet is what a terrible tragedy it would have been if a stack of nice plates or china had fallen off the counter somehow. A terrible thing. How fortunate it didn't occur to you... er, I'm sorry; I meant to say how fortunate it didn't occur.
They treated you horribly.
How odd of them and your daughter.
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