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My mom regrets marriage and having all her children. I'm glad I've decided never to breed. Our family has seriously disturbed DNA - we have bipolars, criminals, a drug dealer, heroine addict/alcoholics, kleptomaniacs, suicidal nutcases and a child abuser. I'm the only offspring that's never been arrested, not chemically dependent and somewhat sane (not during PMS).
That's a shame. It sounds like you and your siblings have gone through hell. DNA may have little to do with it-----what you've endured as a child is likely the root of your family's problems. I can't imagine being in your mother's place and regretting marriage and having children. Sounds like she's blaming her children for Her life's outcome which isn't fair. Kids don't ask to be born and are the innocent party.
You're to be commended as someone who has survived. I don't know how old you are but one is never too old to move from survivor to thriver. And just because your mother had a bad time of it doesn't mean that you would necessarily go through the same thing. One final thought. . .Having a child isn't "breeding." Animals breed. People in love conceive Life. And Life is Beautiful.
I find it extremely hard to believe that anyone who HAS children would not be happy they had them?? I understand if you didn't want any and therefore didn't, but to say you are not glad for the one's you have? SAD!!
Anyway, in my younger years I never saw myself with children or married. Then I got married and in my 30's had two daughters. Now I couldn't imagine my life without them! As trying as it sometimes, they are my life!
I find it extremely hard to believe that anyone who HAS children would not be happy they had them?? I understand if you didn't want any and therefore didn't, but to say you are not glad for the one's you have? SAD!!
Anyway, in my younger years I never saw myself with children or married. Then I got married and in my 30's had two daughters. Now I couldn't imagine my life without them! As trying as it sometimes, they are my life!
Believe it! We wouldn't have so many horror stories of child abuse if every child was loved.
Way before the Internet a newspaper advice columnist asked the public to write and let her know their true feelings about having kids.
She was shocked to find out that many regretted having kids.
I had my son at 36...never wanting them and at 5"8 and 90 pounds was not supposed to have them. Well, he is the best thing that ever happened to me! Life w/out him would be sad and I'd probably be dead. Life with me has given me a love I've never expected. He is a PIA sometimes (at nine), but they all are!
Although my son is estranged from us, I would do it all again. He, and now the memories I have, were joyous and bring me great joy when I remember our 37 years before he went all weird.
I'm sorry that happened to you. I have the same scenario with one of my sons. I can only hope he'll regain his senses while his dad and I are still alive. Who ever heard of an adolescent rebellion at age 35? Surely it will end for me and for you.
While I love my children they have put a major strain on the relationship with my wife.
A second wife, not their mother? That's often difficult.
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