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Not true, but nice try coming to conclusions all on your own. I like the guy, yes. Could there be a future for us down the road? Maybe. But I'm no home wrecker and also no rebound. So I'm glad to have made the friendship with him, and we'll see what happens in the future. I'm not hoping for anything or counting on anything.
OP:
So which one is it?
A future with him or no future with him since you claim to not be a homewrecker and are not hoping for anything or counting on anything?
Because if you would like a future with him, then you are hoping for a relationship to happen.
Are you hoping that he breaks up with his girlfriend?
A future with him or no future with him since you claim to not be a homewrecker and are not hoping for anything or counting on anything?
Because if you would like a future with him, then you are hoping for a relationship to happen.
Are you hoping that he breaks up with his girlfriend?
I'm open to what the future holds, but not hoping for something either way, is what I mean. And not making any moves to cause him to break up with his girlfriend, or giving him any reason to think that's what I want him to do.
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I'm open to what the future holds, but not hoping for something either way, is what I mean. And not making any moves to cause him to break up with his girlfriend, or giving him any reason to think that's what I want him to do.
... which is what you say when you want to tell yourself that you are completely innocent in this situation.
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He asked me out to dinner, he asked if I wanted to go hiking, he asked if I'd like to go over to his house for a drink, and he asked me to the movies and dinner again. He talked about doing skydiving and going to Scandinavia together.
Sounds like dating to me.
What you're doing used to be called "leading him on" back in the day. You're just "going with the flow," enjoying his company, letting him make plans and take you places, and when he makes a move you will be all flummoxed and shocked, because **gasp** "you have a GIRLFRIEND!!"
And he will be like, "What the heck did you think we were doing on all these dates we've been on??"
The minute you admitted that you'd be open to going out with him "if" he didn't have a GF, everything changed.
I'm really confused about this situation. OP can you please clarify whether he has been flirting with you at all or hinting at anything beyond a platonic friendship with you? Has he made any moves on you that would make you think he wants to cheat on his girlfriend with you? If not, then I think for now it's safe to assume he doesn't want anything other than companionship from you. But if he has been flirty with you at all then I'd be wary of his intentions.
If I were asked to rob a bank the whole idea being that of someone else and I just go with the flow am I guilty?
I understand that the OP is just taking his lead. It is really about what you feel to be right or wrong. He isn't married and maybe isn't that serious about this girlfriend. Some people are in a relationship and agree to see other people. Some allow cheating if it is outside a hundred mile radius of home. There is more than one side. Out of curiosity OP, have you asked if his girlfriend is Ok with all of this? If you feel strange about it and consider him a friend why not ask what his intentions are? How serious the relationship with the girlfriend is? It is Ok to tell him you are getting mixed signals and don't know what to make of it. If you are planning a vacation together its time to ask questions.
I'm really confused about this situation. OP can you please clarify whether he has been flirting with you at all or hinting at anything beyond a platonic friendship with you? Has he made any moves on you that would make you think he wants to cheat on his girlfriend with you? If not, then I think for now it's safe to assume he doesn't want anything other than companionship from you. But if he has been flirty with you at all then I'd be wary of his intentions.
This would make sense for the time being, but what about his sudden interest in taking a vacation to Scandinavia with her? That's odd. She mentions she has a vacation to Scandinavia coming up, and suddenly he wants to join her and go skydiving with her? It's not like he's desperate for companionship; he has a gf.
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