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Old 01-03-2017, 07:58 AM
 
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Context: Where I grew up, funerals (and wakes) happened within days of a person's death. If there wasn't a wake/funeral (i.e., private service), a memorial at a later date was often announced.

A friend of our lost her father a bit before Christmas. We sent condolences and a floral arrangement and a phone call. Naturally, we expected to hear about arrangements but didn't push.

When we didn't hear anything after 10 days we sort of assumed they were private (something that kind of fits this person's family dynamics).

This morning, we heard (through the grapevine) that the funeral will be in 3 weeks.

I could add more detail but due to the sensitivity of the topic I won't at this stage. I'll just ask if this is common in others' experiences here, a funeral delayed by about 5-6 weeks, unannounced.

TIA.
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Old 01-03-2017, 08:06 AM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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It is common during holidays and/or when family needs to come in from far places.
Arranging flights, juggling kids & schools, etc., can take time to get into place.

ETA: in some northern areas, the ground may be too frozen to bury.
And sometimes things are planned around relatives who have scheduled surgeries or are on vacation.
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Old 01-03-2017, 08:07 AM
 
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There may have been a need for an autopsy, depending on the circumstances.

There may be a backlog of people needing to be buried in that area (that's what happened when my grandma died, there was almost 4 weeks wait).
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Old 01-03-2017, 08:09 AM
 
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Thank you both.
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Old 01-03-2017, 09:03 AM
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My friend's dad died during a deep freeze and they had to wait a couple of weeks to bury him. Also, they had to delay my MIL's burial in Florida in summer for a week because the water table was too high.
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Old 01-03-2017, 09:55 AM
 
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There is also the possibility that the service to be held in three weeks will be a memorial/remembrance service, rather than an actual funeral. A few years ago, a friend of mine died (during the spring, so there was no problem with frozen ground), and his family and his SO conducted a very small, private funeral within days of his death.

However, because this man was so well-known in his field, his family soon mailed notices of a memorial/remembrance service that would be held in a couple of months. The time lag was apparently planned in order to give people who lived all over the US ample time to make travel arrangements. The memorial/remembrance service almost filled the church, and even though it was held at least two months after his passing, it was a very moving experience for everyone.

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Old 01-03-2017, 10:10 AM
 
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I could add more detail but due to the sensitivity of the topic I won't at this stage. I'll just ask if this is common in others' experiences here, a funeral delayed by about 5-6 weeks, unannounced.
It happens when the death was part of a crime that needs to be investigated.

An acquaintance of mine committed suicide but he also had stolen money and owed some big dealers, so his death was investigated to rule out murder. He wasn't buried for several months.
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Old 01-03-2017, 10:48 AM
 
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My father knew he would likely be passing in December due to the way his cancer was progressing. He wanted us to have a hymn sing and ice cream social in his memory. He said it would be better to wait until January so it didn't interfere with people's busy holiday season.

So it was about 6 weeks later.
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Old 01-03-2017, 11:04 AM
 
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With cremation becoming more popular,some families time the memorial service around convenience of relatives to attend.
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Old 01-03-2017, 11:06 AM
 
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Frozen ground ?


Doesn't stop burials in Minnesota year around.


My wife's funeral and burial was on a December day with the temp at -13 at noon out at the graveyard.
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