Why do some people not want to reconnect with others of their past? (person)

[mej210390]

Be it Primary School, High School, some other place of association, what are the reasons some don't want to reconnect with people of their pasts?

[Zeurich]

I am sure they have some reason.

[jimrich]

Originally Posted by mej210390

Be it Primary School, High School, some other place of association, what are the reasons some don't want to reconnect with people of their pasts?

Shame, fear, hurt feelings, guilt, anger, misunderstandings, humiliation, social awkwardness, a bad memory or event but mostly it's about FEAR.

[ylisa7]

They are in the past because that time in our lives is over. If they really meant anything then we wouldn't have to "reconnect".

It can be fun to reminisce but once that is over there is no real common ground left so why bother.

[swgirl926]

I just have no desire to reconnect with people in my past, like classmates, because I did not particularly enjoy that time in my life and don't need to be reminded of it. I would rather live in the here and now.

[May1989]

Well, I tried reconnecting with someone recently, only to regret it. I thought the person had changed for the better but I was wrong. Now I understand why I didn't keep the connection in the first place.

As some people point out, if the relationship was good, there would be no need to reconnect. People rarely change. The past is just that. Move on.

[nurider2002]

I am nothing like the person I was 20 years ago, much less 30 years ago. A childhood friend whom I have had zero contact with in almost 40 years called me on XMAS eve and left a message. Why would someone I haven't talked to in 40 years call me on XMAS eve? I don't want to know. I hung with the wrong crowd as a teenager. Most of the people I knew back then ended up as addicts, dead or being in trouble well into their 20s at least. I wish them all well but I don't need that drama in my life.

[Pitt Chick]

IF they did not like you then, they have no need for you now.

They moved on, and they don't need or want you in their life any more!

[convextech]

Originally Posted by mej210390

Be it Primary School, High School, some other place of association, what are the reasons some don't want to reconnect with people of their pasts?

Because they've grown up and moved on.

[thinkalot]

Originally Posted by ylisa7

They are in the past because that time in our lives is over. If they really meant anything then we wouldn't have to "reconnect".

I think this sums it up perfectly.