Making a point??

[hellob]

Why don't you limit her access to your posts? You can either block her from everything you post or just individual ones.

[2002 Subaru]

Originally Posted by seain dublin

Can't you just enjoy and evening out with your husband or playing with an animal and not have to post about it?

Believe or not, but you can get a sense of satisfaction and power by keeping somethings to yourself.

Many today thanks to social media seem to think that others are fascinated with everything they do and what they had for lunch.

They're not.

While she may have animosity, maybe she thinks you're self absorbed?

HAHAHA! I agree.

[2002 Subaru]

Originally Posted by bluemonday

I am looking for an opinion on something. Basically, every couple months I will put pictures up on social media site for whatever...whether it is pictures of my husband and I dressed up out to dinner, vacations, a selfie with myself and an animal I was spending time with, etc.

So I have this friend for about 20 years, and we go out to lunch maybe a couple times a year. I usually visit her while visiting family 2 hours away, and it hasn't been as often because I haven't been traveling as much. Anyway, she will private message me asking when I will be visiting next and to contact her, and nothing really else in between. Well, she will post random stuff to my pictures, and last time the responses were kinda like asking question that I felt were better suited for private messages. She made some strange remark recently about what I was wearing, asking if it was a special occasion, and made a comment about what my husband was wearing, and I felt it was a dig.

It just seems awkward and embarrassing when someone does this, and I have a gut feeling this friend has some kind of animosity toward me. I had a feeling my mother in law was making a point too...but I am not understanding what?? Why would someone do or say this stuff randomly.

I know I will get the lecture and a lot of who cares from people replying to this, but I am asking so I know whether to proceed with caution with this friend, maybe cut her off, or something?? I am not good picking up on this manipulative stuff and games people play...until things get really bad.

Here's my advice: Delete your account. You'll find that you'll be much happier not having to worry about this sort of nonsense. Just do it.

[oldwoman]

This makes me think about the whole social media thing and how many people love it and many people do not.

Those who enjoy it seem to enjoy putting themselves on display. I'm not saying this as a judgement of those people, but rather as a fact. I am guilty of the same sort of thing from time to time. All of us would like to be seen as attractive and since we live in a world where attractiveness is worshiped, then it stands to reason that we would engage in this sort of behavior.

Having said that, we all also indulge in the behavior of judging others. This is a necessary thing that humans must do in order to sort out their personal values and navigate through life. Problems arise when we go from judging to judgmental.

I may judge your behavior as unsuitable for me. In other words, I may decide that the number of pictures of yourself that you post on your Facebook page and the provocativeness of those pictures would not be something that I would engage in. However, when I decide that you should not engage in this behavior simply because I wouldn't, then I have become judgmental.

[PJSaturn]

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