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Ask him the time and he'll tell you how to build a clock.
This perfectly describes a friend or mine. He'll mention how hard it is to find parking, then explain how parking meters work and how certain spots are reserved for the handicapped. He wants to park close to the entrance, because the farther away he parks, the longer he'll have to walk to the building. And he will say this to you as if you're supposed to be enlightened and mildly stunned at this unbelievable information.
I know it annoys him when I cut it off, which is why I will continue to do it (I don't sugarcoat, kiss up, or play along just to satisfy the other party in any situation). Hopefully he'll eventually realize how irritating he can be to folks and curb his behavior.
My husband does this. He turns a light on for me and says "I turned on the light for you." He reads all the signs when we are driving. He can't just tell a story like "I saw Bob at the store today." It is more like a running commentary- "I turned into the parking lot at the store because I needed to buy milk and there was a blue truck that turned in front of me. I walked down the bread aisle to get to the milk, and there was an old lady talking to another old lady so I had to go around them. I got to the milk and one was on sale so I bought that. On my way to the checkout, I saw this guy in a green shirt that looked familiar but I didn't know him. Then on my way out I ran into Bob, who was coming to the store to buy some screws for the new deck he is building for his house on Elm St, where he lives with his wife, Linda and their four kids, I don't remember all of their names, maybe Joe, Sally, Ed and Sue? Oh no, not Sue, must be Karen or something."
The type of person who will, for example, invite you to a party, then feel the need to explain how there will be music, food, and lots of people. They may even throw in that it's an Xmas party, as it's that time of year and people are off work that week...
Or they might mention that they had to pay tolls during a long road trip, and then proceed to tell you what toll booths are and how they work. I had a guy once explain to an engineer how to engineer something. With absolutely not a drop of self-awareness.
I was wondering how others handle this sort of person. I will personally cut the person off as they begin the unnecessary explanation and inform them politely 'Yes, I know *insert whatever*', then give them a look of 'continue on with the conversation'.
Some get offended, and I find it impossible to care. My engineer friend was a bit taken aback by one particular person, and I personally find it offensive to explain everything as if you assume the person does not know whatever common, everyday thing you're trying to pontificate on.
That's more than over-talking if he's telling an engineer how to engineer things. I don't want to toss a label like narcissist on him but that is what I get from the Narcissists in my fam (two). When my brother met my fiance from a socialist country he said your country is socialist? My fiance said yes. He then proceeded to tell him how socialism works and why it's bad. I mean ..... I would have thought that an opportunity to ASK how it worked in HIS country of origin, not tell him **** he already knows! He has interesting stories about the way it works in his home country!
And my Aunt. When we have an expert on something come in here, or we go to one about something, she tells them everything. Why are we consulting an expert? Then she gets irritated when I ask the expert the pertinent questions we want to know. She thinks they are stupid questions. I guess she wants the expert to .......... ????? agree with what she is saying should happen and make it so?
I have a friend (who I love dearly) who doesn't necessarily overexplain situations, but he DOES give way too many details about the people in his "story."
It's never:
Him: I ran into Sally, a woman I used to work with at the high school, at Food Lion. She told me that Ed's is closing down because it got flooded during the storm, and business wasn't doing too well anyway, so they just decided to close.
Instead, it's:
Him: Today, I was at Food Lion, and I ran into Sally Murphy, originally Sally Johnson from the Johnson family...you know the ones who own Johnson's Furniture Store? Did you know that she started going to school at Wayne Community College, but then she transferred to UNC-Chapel Hill the next year? That was just a year after I graduated from there. We ended up teaching together at the high school. At the time, her and her husband lived in this charming house off of Walnut Street. Her husband is Jeff Murphy. His family originally came from Raleigh, North Carolina, but they came to Goldsboro in the 50s because his family bought a hog farm. Blah blah blah blah blah...oh, and when I talked to Sally, she told me that Ed's is closing down! You know Ed, he's not originally from here but blah blah blah.....blah blah blah blah...so anyway, Ed's is closing down!
I have a friend (who I love dearly) who doesn't necessarily overexplain situations, but he DOES give way too many details about the people in his "story."
It's never:
Him: I ran into Sally, a woman I used to work with at the high school, at Food Lion. She told me that Ed's is closing down because it got flooded during the storm, and business wasn't doing too well anyway, so they just decided to close.
Instead, it's:
Him: Today, I was at Food Lion, and I ran into Sally Murphy, originally Sally Johnson from the Johnson family...you know the ones who own Johnson's Furniture Store? Did you know that she started going to school at Wayne Community College, but then she transferred to UNC-Chapel Hill the next year? That was just a year after I graduated from there. We ended up teaching together at the high school. At the time, her and her husband lived in this charming house off of Walnut Street. Her husband is Jeff Murphy. His family originally came from Raleigh, North Carolina, but they came to Goldsboro in the 50s because his family bought a hog farm. Blah blah blah blah blah...oh, and when I talked to Sally, she told me that Ed's is closing down! You know Ed, he's not originally from here but blah blah blah.....blah blah blah blah...so anyway, Ed's is closing down!
This describes one of my close relatives to a T. It is impossible for him to give a brief overview of the situation or story. Instead, he goes into such minute detail about everything, that you can feel your eyes glazing over as you're plotting your escape from h***.
I tune out with those types. I don't have the attention span or the patience. Sometimes I tell them to cut the chit and get to the point already. Depends on my mood and who it is.
The post made me think of Outsider Art. This is a term for artists who are untrained. Sometimes they just are compelled to do it, or sometimes they are in mental institutions and make art for therapy.
In every case, regardless, these artists share certain characteristics.
One is horror vacui meaning a fear of empty spaces.
Another is, they fill the painting with bible verses or other wording, because they don't trust the viewer to understand the meaning of their paintings.
Third is they use found objects to make their work.
The post made me think of Outsider Art. This is a term for artists who are untrained. Sometimes they just are compelled to do it, or sometimes they are in mental institutions and make art for therapy.
In every case, regardless, these artists share certain characteristics. One is horror vacui meaning a fear of empty spaces.
Another is, they fill the painting with bible verses or other wording, because they don't trust the viewer to understand the meaning of their paintings.
Third is they use found objects to make their work.
Whoa, that's actually pretty interesting..
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