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I had to go to the store today to pick up something from one of the managers, and I did the best I could to avoid him.
You didn't do the best you could to avoid him; you did everything you could to be all over the store where he can find you. A person who truly wanted to avoid him would not have even stopped at that store.
Well, I'm close friends with many people at this store, and next door to it is a bar where I'm good friends with the people who own it. I had to go to that store yesterday because one of the managers had something that he borrowed from me, and he wanted to return it. This is going to be hard. All weekend long I went to hang out at other parts of the city, and with a different set of friends. And I did ignore all of his texts. But understand, my best friends work at that store. And we are all often invited to gatherings and stuff.
So? You're close friends with many people at the store. They're working. Most people don't go to their friend's place of employment to socialize.
You didn't have to go pick up whatever the manager borrowed from you at that moment.
I understand if you have to see him due to having the same circle of friends, for example if someone suggested a group gathering and he will be there. But you didn't have to go to the store, knowing he was there.
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Originally Posted by convextech
You didn't do the best you could to avoid him; you did everything you could to be all over the store where he can find you. A person who truly wanted to avoid him would not have even stopped at that store.
You didn't do the best you could to avoid him; you did everything you could to be all over the store where he can find you. A person who truly wanted to avoid him would not have even stopped at that store.
Exactly. I get the strong impression OP wanted to be seen. She's put up with this crap for awhile now and felt strongly enough about it to post--it's on her mind.
Attention. It's a VERY strong drug to a certain type of woman, and she'll take it where she can get it.
You didn't do the best you could to avoid him; you did everything you could to be all over the store where he can find you. A person who truly wanted to avoid him would not have even stopped at that store.
It was supposed to be his day off! I had no idea he was going to be there.
He's bi-polar. One minute happy, the next a total jerk. You can't help him. He needs medication. He treats you like crap. He is not your friend.
Bipolar people do not change from one minute to the next. It goes in cycles.
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It was supposed to be his day off! I had no idea he was going to be there.
But you realized he was there, and yet you remained and continued talking to other employees.
Again, this isn't how you distance yourself from someone.
I know someone who will not go to a certain bar/restaurant and hasn't for almost two years just on the off chance that they might run into someone they want no contact with.
This just came up in conversation and I even said chances are you won't see him anyway, no they're adamant they're not willing to take the chance and I now understand that.
I would strongly recommend that you distance yourself from this man. It sounds like he has some real problems. You do not want to be hanging out without someone that has that kind of mood swings, especially if they are drinking and acting irrational.
It sounds like you were being used as someone who could give him a ride and that he didn't really want to socialize but felt he had to because you were there.
If I was to guess he is getting involved in bad things....especially since he wanted you out of the bar and to wait for him.
If you got pulled over and he ever had anything he ditched in your car, you would be the one arrested. If you want to keep yourself out of this kind of situation, stop answering his calls, stop giving him rides. Find friends that do things other than hang out at bars, especially til early morning hours.
Do yourself a favor and start getting your life in order, and do things to improve your life and don't waste energy of people that will drag you down with them. Be safe.
Bipolar people do not change from one minute to the next. It goes in cycles.
But you realized he was there, and yet you remained and continued talking to other employees.
Again, this isn't how you distance yourself from someone.
I know someone who will not go to a certain bar/restaurant and hasn't for almost two years just on the off chance that they might run into someone they want no contact with.
This just came up in conversation and I even said chances are you won't see him anyway, no they're adamant they're not willing to take the chance and I now understand that.
See the difference?
Yes, I am the same way. If I am trying to avoid someone and think he/she might be somewhere, I am not going to go to that place where it is super likely that person would be unless it is a requirement I would go there.
Additionally, if I am super close friends with everyone else going to that event or to that place, I would verify that the person I don't want to see is not actually there before I go. "Hey X, I just want to check that B is not there today before I drop your item off." "Oh he is in today? I'll stop by another time then or we can meet at Y during your lunch break."
Proof that you were watching what he's doing. Yawn.
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