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Old 03-17-2017, 11:25 AM
 
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I work closely with a good-sized group of people every day, depending on that day's activity could be 10-90 people. Constant interaction, talk, and activity.

At the end of a week, I need recluse time. Almost to the level of hiding in a remote chamber for a while. Like 2-8 hours worth.

I think this is healthy and a good skill to have.
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Old 03-17-2017, 11:48 AM
 
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I don't like people at all, but if recluse means living alone in a little cabin somewhere, no way. Too lonely and I will go insane from listening to my own thoughts.

I like to see other people around me, but I hate crowds and don't like talking to people or forming relationships with them.
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Old 03-17-2017, 11:54 AM
 
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I like balance in many areas of my life.

So therefore, if I get too much alone-time or too much time around other people, then either option will start to get on my nerves.
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Old 03-17-2017, 12:01 PM
 
Location: Where the mountains touch the sky
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I have a little cabin, 9 miles from the road on a 2 track goat trail. No power, no phone, no TV, no neighbors, surrounded by thousands of acres of wilderness, it's a little slice of heaven. My plan for retirement is to move there, lock the gate and enjoy.


I've spent most of my life in the wild by myself, except for the fact I have to work in town where I'm forced into interaction with a lot of people, and I also have to do a lot of public speaking or talking to customers on a daily basis, so I get into character and do well, but it isn't me.
Every time I get the opportunity to get away, I take it. If I'm not at work, I'm in the shop all by myself, or with my dogs, or somewhere far out on the backside of nowhere where nobody can find me.


Could I be a recluse? I already am, and will be more so in the future when I can mostly tell the rest of the world to take a hike and my dogs, my fiddle and I can go where we can be happy.


The wife can come along if she wants, but even the amount of chatter she generates by herself is almost too much constant talking for me.
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Old 03-17-2017, 02:21 PM
 
Location: Chicago area
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Oh hell yes! My dearest dream is to re-live the Twilight Zone episode 'Time Enough At Last' except, unlike Henry Bemis, I wouldn't break my glasses.

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I remember that episode

Could I be a recluse? Oh heck no. I'm far too boring to be with 24/7. I'm highly social and need that interaction. Even better if you can make me laugh.
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Old 03-17-2017, 02:23 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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Of course. Most people just disappoint you anyways.
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Old 03-17-2017, 03:06 PM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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Sometimes it's just nice to have time to yourself!
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Old 03-17-2017, 03:11 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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No. But I wouldn't mind having fewer commitments. I feel like such an old grouch, but I want more me time at this time in my life. I know this is selfish, but there it is.
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Old 03-17-2017, 03:34 PM
 
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I work closely with a good-sized group of people every day, depending on that day's activity could be 10-90 people. Constant interaction, talk, and activity.

At the end of a week, I need recluse time. Almost to the level of hiding in a remote chamber for a while. Like 2-8 hours worth.

I think this is healthy and a good skill to have.
I only work part time, but it's constant interaction, talk, etc. and I am spent completely by it. I have to recharge and it takes me a long time to do it.
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Old 03-17-2017, 03:59 PM
 
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I like a little alone time out in nature but no I would not want isolation long term. I need to socialize often or I become depressed and anxious.
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