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To answer your most recent question, she's widowed.
To answer your first, YES. She most likely will have gotten into this stranger's car and rode with him! And yes, if that was the case, I would most definitely intervene. Damn right! And she in the process said, "Never mind, I'm getting Uber!" So get Uber, but you're NOT riding with a total stranger!
If you want to make orphans out of your kids, don't do it on my watch!!!
Good for you, Rick! And I'm sorry to hear she lost her first husband to an untimely death. But perhaps, as a friend, you could venture to express your concern about her impulse to be overly-trusting of strangers while under the influence of alcohol. Also: Uber doesn't have a good reputation for dealing with women customers who are under the influence. Just saying. Uber--really?? Why? It's still not making sense.
Oh well. I guess people don't make sense when they've had a couple of drinks.
Alternatively, would you want your drunk friend riding in this strangers car alone? Yes, she played it wrong but in a sense you were there as protection - whether you knew this or not.
There's another alternative - the guy could have just driven his own car by himself and met up with everyone else at the next place.
Did I mention that my friend was three sheets to the wind when she invited this strange guy? But yes I agree, I should've just said NO. But say, as a poster said, she'd actually rode with this guy? She could've been robbed, killed, whatever. Also, keep in mind (and this may or may not be relevant), she's a mom of three, her kids knew that I was her ride. What the hell would I have told her kids if God forbid, something had happened to her???
Why couldn't you have put your drunk friend in your car and told the new guy to meet y'all at the other place? That's the obvious answer and doesn't take a lot of thought or gumption.
I suppose you're right to be annoyed, but the real question is, what should you have done. Seems to me you could have taken her aside and either said "Why ask this guy? I thought this evening was for us three." or "Listen, I'm sorry, but I don't want strangers in my car." Or, you could have said publicly, "It makes no sense for him to come with us, because then I'll have to bring him back to his own car."
Did I mention that my friend was three sheets to the wind when she invited this strange guy? But yes I agree, I should've just said NO. But say, as a poster said, she'd actually rode with this guy? She could've been robbed, killed, whatever. Also, keep in mind (and this may or may not be relevant), she's a mom of three, her kids knew that I was her ride. What the hell would I have told her kids if God forbid, something had happened to her???
Your friend is a mother of three?
I just assumed that all of you were in your early twenties, and pretty immature, to be doing reckless things like "getting drunk and picking up random strangers" and allowing strangers to ride in your care. Sheesh!
My friends have also done stupid and risky things while drunk. I have had to forcefully tell them no, like I'm their freaking mother, and sometimes literally drag them with me when they were going to do something dumb. Ultimately, especially if you were sober (assuming you were if you drove), you had the opportunity to tell her and the random guy no. You could have said something like "you know, we just met you and I'm not sure we should drive you anywhere, and these two aren't in any condition to be making decisions right now, so sorry man but it's my car, I'm driving, and I have to say no."
Dude, if you like her, say something. Pretending to be the 'platonic friend'--i.e, the taxi driver, in this case--isn't going to get you in any faster.
And she in the process said, "Never mind, I'm getting Uber!" So get Uber, but you're NOT riding with a total stranger!
I guess that's why I don't get why you're on this "stranger could be a serial killer so I don't want him riding with us" bit, yet you're okay with her getting in a car with an Uber driver who is likely a...stranger.
Now that she's sober, you should speak to her about your concerns of her choices when she's intoxicated.
I think that you like this lady. Would your response be the same if she met up with another girlfriend?
And I personally think it's rude to invite someone else along to a structured outing.
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