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Well, there's no way in hell I'm getting married just to keep the red flag from waving over my head. It ain't worth it! And "society", with its "LTR = maturity" mindset, can kiss my tuchus. And if I'm not guaranteed to reach 34, let alone 60, YOLO!
Believe it or not, being "old and alone" scares me a lot less than ending up in a boring relationship, the kind everyone around me are getting into. Also don't forget: there are lots more available women than men once you pass age 60.
LOL - you are so way out of touch with reality I can't begin to list the ways. My brother thought he'd do just what you plan ... then he wound up with diabetes and lost both his legs and actually said "I wish I had married years ago so I would have someone to take care of me now"...to which I assured him that would have been no guarantee of help...lots of spouses bolt at the first signs of illness.
Further, to think at 60 you will magically "find" someone is flawed, but the women you might find at that age will probably be just as naive as you will be about relationships.
I'm actually ahead of you there . I did use humor briefly, as well as diversion tactics. After sincere honesty failed, and before resorting to firm statements like "absolutely not". Unfortunately, my humor went over their heads, due to cultural differences or language barrier. Consider this diversion tactic:
Her: (something) my granddaughter (something)
Me: Hey, how about them Cubs?
Her: [confused look] I... don't... know...
Me: It's Chicago baseball. You have a pleasant day, now.
Fortunately, the propositions have all but dried up for the most part. I'm happy with meeting women through Meetup. Yeah, it's strictly as friends, but it's what I want. (I meet men as friends too, but mixed company is more fun.)
ROFL! Now that's funny! (bolded) Total non-sequitur.
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LOL - you are so way out of touch with reality I can't begin to list the ways. My brother thought he'd do just what you plan ... then he wound up with diabetes and lost both his legs and actually said "I wish I had married years ago so I would have someone to take care of me now"...to which I assured him that would have been no guarantee of help...lots of spouses bolt at the first signs of illness.
Further, to think at 60 you will magically "find" someone is flawed, but the women you might find at that age will probably be just as naive as you will be about relationships.
Good luck with that.
I really don't understand these don't put relationships now or your life will suck threats. Since OP is clearly not up for marriage and doesn't feel he can be a decent husband, why would people try to scare him into a LTR? I just don't get it.
LOL - you are so way out of touch with reality I can't begin to list the ways. My brother thought he'd do just what you plan ... then he wound up with diabetes and lost both his legs and actually said "I wish I had married years ago so I would have someone to take care of me now"...to which I assured him that would have been no guarantee of help...lots of spouses bolt at the first signs of illness.
Getting married for the "caretaker insurance" seems just as selfish as staying single for the sake for freedom. At least see it from this angle, if not my regular one.
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I really don't understand these don't put relationships now or your life will suck threats. Since OP is clearly not up for marriage and doesn't feel he can be a decent husband, why would people try to scare him into a LTR? I just don't get it.
I don't get it either. But this is a real estate site. Since relationshipped people buy the most real estate, there's something to be gained from getting people to settle down.
Let me restate what the OPs issue is because a lot of people have departed on their own tangents. It is not that the old folks asked him once, it is that the old folks KEPT asking after OP repeatedly declined respectfully. What the hell do you do when people can't take a hint after you've repeatedly declined?!
None of us were there. None of us know exactly what was said, or how the women in question heard his response (given that English is probably a second language for many or all of them). Or the cultural context for interpreting someone's declining an offer of that sort, or the necessity for making an offer repeatedly if it's declined (yes, there are cultures where a no thanks is handled that way).
The OP asked for opinions on whether he was insulted or not. I and others have given their opinions -- and I stand by mine as being on point.
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Usually when a Chinese host offers a guest refreshments, if the guest declines, the host will ask again twice. Remember this if you entertain at your place. If someone declines they may really want something so you should really ask a couple more times. It makes it look like you are really concerned with their comfort.
I really don't understand these don't put relationships now or your life will suck threats. Since OP is clearly not up for marriage and doesn't feel he can be a decent husband, why would people try to scare him into a LTR? I just don't get it.
There's almost nothing I agree with the OP on, but this is one of them.
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This whole thread could have been avoided if the OP was annoyed, versus insulted.
Or if those bugging him would take a hint the first time he said no.
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. I did use humor briefly, as well as diversion tactics. After sincere honesty failed, and before resorting to firm statements like "absolutely not". Unfortunately, my humor went over their heads, due to cultural differences or language barrier. Consider this diversion tactic:
