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Why is everybody avoiding the elephant in the room? These were originally your friends, not your husbands, and ALL the women got together and did not call you? Sounds to me like there is something about you that they don't care for, plain and simple. Why not just tell them you were hurt by the exclusion and ask them why they didn't think to invite you. How they respond, rather than what words they use should provide a clue. But it might be time for new friends.
Why is everybody avoiding the elephant in the room? These were originally your friends, not your husbands, and ALL the women got together and did not call you? Sounds to me like there is something about you that they don't care for, plain and simple. Why not just tell them you were hurt by the exclusion and ask them why they didn't think to invite you. How they respond, rather than what words they use should provide a clue. But it might be time for new friends.
I don't think that everybody always has to invite everybody. People have and always will not invite everybody. The only difference now is that social media lets you know that you weren't invited. I don't think there is anything wrong with you not being invited. There is no friend rule that requires full inclusion. It's one thing if you were not invited to a good friend's wedding when everyone else was but it's another if its just a casual gathering.
The only thing that *might* be questionable are your friend's blasting on social media that they got together without you. Even then, I am not sure if there was anything morally wrong about that either.
I don't think that everybody always has to invite everybody. People have and always will not invite everybody. The only difference now is that social media lets you know that you weren't invited. I don't think there is anything wrong with you not being invited. There is no friend rule that requires full inclusion. It's one thing if you were not invited to a good friend's wedding when everyone else was but it's another if its just a casual gathering.
The only thing that *might* be questionable are your friend's blasting on social media that they got together without you. Even then, I am not sure if there was anything morally wrong about that either.
It is rude to invite the husband and not the wife, especially considering all the other wives were included.
OP- I have been in this exact spot several times and it truly does hurt. I am sorry you had to experience being excluded.
I, for one, am sorry she was hurt and I hope she will come back and update us, but with so much speculation here with some people telling her that her husband didn't want her there, that her husband is having an affair with one of the other women, that one of the women has a thing for the husband, that she obviously did something to offend them, that her friends don't like her – well, I might just take a powder and not come back either.
Nothing to update. Decide to takes break from my friends for awhile and I didn't talk about this with any of them. Not one of them has called or messaged since, so I guess that is a sign of it self. I have no doubt that my husband is faithful to me so that concept can be forgotten. I have never had a problem in the past of them doing things without me and posting those memories to social media, this time it only got to me cause my husband was invite but I wasn't.
For the diaper shower thing, gees people get a life. So what if people do this, why do you care? Is it affecting your life? It was at a bar! Guys brought a pack of diapers and then started watching sports and drinking beer. That is the whole shower. No food, no games. The guys that came to party are avid hunters and wear camo almost everyday, and non of them vape. So not sure why that generalization styrotype even came up in this thread.
In the end, I really only came here to vent. So, thank you for giving me that opportunity.
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