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I went shopping on Monday evening. As I was leaving the store there were two women having a conversation in front of the exit. They were speaking in a foreign language and I said excuse me quite clearly to get past them. The first time I said it they didn't move. So I said it a second time a little bit louder and they still didn't move. I then said it a third time and when they didn't move I had to nudged the woman to get by.
As I'm walking away she says "you are rude". I turned around and I said "I asked you to move three times and you didn't move" and I walked away.
I find that I'm dealing with people like this more and more everyday. I encounter this often at the grocery store too - people taking up an entire aisle making small talk. Would you have handled it differently?
I can't stand people like that. I was at a party a few years ago where I made eye contact and said excuse me several times to different people and the inconsiderate asses wouldn't move. Eventually I left the party it was that irritating. You did nothing wrong and instead brought their rudeness to their attention.
If the people don't move after I say "excuse me", I will clutch my stomach, put my hand near my mouth partially covering it, lean over, start groaning, and stumble towards them as I say, "Ooooh, I think I'm going to throw up!" I might even make a retching sound to round out the scene.
If the people don't move after I say "excuse me", I will clutch my stomach, put my hand near my mouth partially covering it, lean over, start groaning, and stumble towards them as I say, "Ooooh, I think I'm going to throw up!" I might even make a retching sound to round out the scene.
i dont think you were rude. It's funny that even though the two rude people were conversing in a foreign language, they knew how to say that you were rude....
Anyways, my pet peeve is when two cars are packed side by side, blocking a parking isle, while they have a chat with one another.
Well, I wouldn't have touched them. There is some risk in that and I do think it is rude to try to physically move or touch people you don't know.
However, after 3 excuse me's, I would of raised my voice and said, "move your ass, you are blocking the door."
She would have felt that was rude, too, but you wouldn't be charged with assault.
Some cultures don't have the concept of getting out of the way, but the ones I am familiar with will politely move at an excuse me.
Getting charged with assault for having to "nudge" past someone who is blocking an exit and wouldn't move when asked three times? Unless I misunderstood the OP, I got the impression that she did not intentionally nudge/push the woman as if to be annoying and make a point, but that she kind of had no choice but to brush up against her in order to get by her due to how and where she was standing. "I had to nudged [sic] the women to get by" indicates to me it wasn't by choice.
Anyway, OP you did nothing wrong and the two idiots blocking the door who somehow didn't hear you say "excuse me" three times are just... idiots. Assuming that each time you said it loudly enough for them, to hear, at least. Perhaps you could have called the woman rude in response for not moving when you politely asked three times. That's really all you could have done differently. Shove it right back at her.
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Unless I misunderstood the OP, I got the impression that she did not intentionally nudge/push the woman as if to be annoying and make a point, but that she kind of had no choice but to brush up against her in order to get by her due to how and where she was standing. "I had to nudged [sic] the women to get by" indicates to me it wasn't by choice. 
