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Old 04-27-2017, 09:01 AM
 
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Long story short, the guy I was hooking up with felt a type of way because I did not tell him that I was sexing his bestfriend. What I don't understand is, what does it matter to him? He kept telling me through out our little hookup situation, that he doesnt care about what I do with anybody..it could be a random dude to his blood brother..he just doesn't care..so why when it comes to his best friend, he want to feel like he was betrayed ? He told me himself he doesn't like me that and all he care about is his baby mama and kid. Ok. Cool. But I'm just so confused. He kept pressing me about the situation, because I guess he felt something was up and when I finally came clean..it's like he started treating me diff.

 
Old 04-27-2017, 09:11 AM
 
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Are you the "baby mama", or is this some other woman? Does your hookup live with the mother of his child, and does he support that child? How old is the baby? How long have you known this guy, and how long have you been sexually involved with him?

How old are you? How old is the hookup? Why did you choose to get involved with someone who "just doesn't care"?

Why are you engaging in promiscuous behavior with either the hookup or his best friend? Does "sexing" mean online stuff or texting sexual matter, or are you physically involved with these two people? Do you truly love or care about either of them? Do you love or care about yourself? Do you need to have sexual validation from multiple others to feel good about yourself?

Advice: drop both these men/boys. Don't get sexually involved in any way outside of a committed monogamous relationship. Focus on yourself. Do you work? Are you in school? Do you live with your family of origin, or a roommate or alone? Where do you want to be and what do you want to be doing in five years? Ten years? How can you make that happen?

Last but not least: get yourself checked for STDs. You are part of a circle of bed-sharers, which is the same as sleeping with not only all of them but with all the partners they've ever had. Go to Planned Parenthood, get yourself on birth control and get checked for STDs - and see if they have a support group that might be helpful to you in avoiding similar situations in the future and in making better choices.
 
Old 04-27-2017, 10:42 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Definition of sexing:


Through sexing, biologists and agricultural workers determine the sex of livestock and other animals they work with. The specialized trade of chicken sexing has ...
 
Old 04-27-2017, 11:28 AM
 
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Long story short, the guy I was hooking up with felt a type of way because I did not tell him that I was sexing his bestfriend. What I don't understand is, what does it matter to him? He kept telling me through out our little hookup situation, that he doesnt care about what I do with anybody..it could be a random dude to his blood brother..he just doesn't care..so why when it comes to his best friend, he want to feel like he was betrayed ? He told me himself he doesn't like me that and all he care about is his baby mama and kid. Ok. Cool. But I'm just so confused. He kept pressing me about the situation, because I guess he felt something was up and when I finally came clean..it's like he started treating me diff.
Things like this happen when fully grown adults, behave like randy teenagers. Seriously reread what you wrote and apply an ounce of common sense. One who acts like a child must deal with childish problems.
 
Old 04-27-2017, 11:32 AM
 
Location: Texas or Cascais, Portugal
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Wow, more than a tad judgmental! What men say and what they feel often don't jive.
 
Old 04-27-2017, 02:46 PM
 
Location: Winterpeg
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I'd also suggest getting tested for STis and stop being part of the bed merry-go-round. Then you won't have to worry about this sort of drama.

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Definition of sexing:


Through sexing, biologists and agricultural workers determine the sex of livestock and other animals they work with. The specialized trade of chicken sexing has ...
Yes, I sexed a couple of cats at work today. lol
 
Old 04-27-2017, 03:14 PM
 
Location: The Greater Houston Metro Area
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Is one of these guys the one you are accepting money from?

Would you accept money from someone youre not interested in?
 
Old 04-27-2017, 05:17 PM
 
Location: South Austin, 78745
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Long story short, the guy I was hooking up with felt a type of way because I did not tell him that I was sexing his bestfriend. What I don't understand is, what does it matter to him? He kept telling me through out our little hookup situation, that he doesnt care about what I do with anybody..it could be a random dude to his blood brother..he just doesn't care..so why when it comes to his best friend, he want to feel like he was betrayed ? He told me himself he doesn't like me that and all he care about is his baby mama and kid. Ok. Cool. But I'm just so confused. He kept pressing me about the situation, because I guess he felt something was up and when I finally came clean..it's like he started treating me diff.
If you suggest a 3 way, he might go for it.
 
Old 04-27-2017, 07:34 PM
 
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I reckon "homey don't play that". Take a look at it for what it is, he is ready to move on.
 
Old 04-27-2017, 09:20 PM
 
Location: NW Oregon
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I feel notably less intelligent having read the original post in this thread. We are "deff" doomed if society continues on this downward spiral...
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