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Old 05-01-2017, 01:20 AM
 
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There is this guy, around 40, that has been trying to get with me for 2 years. I told him directly I am not interested in him whatsoever. ....he said he got it but he keeps trying to find excuses to call me, text, message, etc. Instead of asking me if I am interested to hang out, he corners me with, so when are we going out? I told him, like on so many occassions, that I am busy and am not interested. A normal person would get the message.

So, he keeps asking me whenever he sees me on the street (sometimes on FB, too), how is my studying for this one license exam? Let's say I would see him on Monday in the street, he'd ask how's studying for the exam going, then bump into him Tuesday and he'd ask how's studying for the exam going. It annoyed me so much and I told him to please stop.

Bumped into him a few days back and again, when are we going out? (Dude is socially dumb!) I told him I cannot, he was all, come on, you like to sit at home and do nothing? Let's go out today. Then he asked me if I am going back home (the license exam is for my home country) and when? He asked me this question like 5 times before! Like I am dumb and do not understand where he is trying to get at!

He irritates me so much!!! I am trying to act politely but I do not want to go hang out with him period!
Am I supposed to straight up tell him, "Listen, I never want to hang out with you, nor talk to you!"

He keeps asking personal questions and his constant obsession with my future plans and exams is irritating me so much!

I don't get why some people are so obsessed with what others are doing!!! Once I graduate in a few months, I will never see him again so why does he care???? He also hinted to me he wants to take this license exam, I told him what to study, but he keeps asking ME my future plans!!!

I believe that people with low self esteem usually are the ones obsessed with what others are up to.
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Old 05-01-2017, 01:21 AM
 
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If you have no blocked his access to you I see no reason for you to complain.
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Old 05-01-2017, 01:24 AM
 
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If you have no blocked his access to you I see no reason for you to complain.
He goes to the same school as me, so yes, sometimes I see him in the street.
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Old 05-01-2017, 06:15 AM
 
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Block him on FB. Don't even stop to talk to him, just walk away. You're being too nice.
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Old 05-01-2017, 06:15 AM
 
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He keeps annoying you because you keep the door to you open. In his mind you are saying " no" but don't really mean it.

Block him on Facebook, block him on your phone ( contact your carrier- most have ways of blocking ).

Do not speak to him on the street. Nod your head to acknowledge him and not be rude, then just keep walking away. If he says anything tell him there will be no conversation and then ignore him and keep walking away. You must be 100% consistent.
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Old 05-01-2017, 07:48 AM
 
Location: Northern Virginia
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He keeps annoying you because you keep the door to you open. In his mind you are saying " no" but don't really mean it.

Block him on Facebook, block him on your phone ( contact your carrier- most have ways of blocking ).

Do not speak to him on the street. Nod your head to acknowledge him and not be rude, then just keep walking away. If he says anything tell him there will be no conversation and then ignore him and keep walking away. You must be 100% consistent.
^^This, OP.

He's not respecting your boundaries. It's time to stop being polite, and assert yourself.
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Old 05-01-2017, 07:54 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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Just gotta snap at him once and let him know how it really is. Some guys really are that dense.
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Old 05-01-2017, 08:05 AM
 
Location: Dallas, TX and Las Vegas, NV
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Text him back next time: John, I respectfully request you stop texting me.
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Old 05-01-2017, 08:43 AM
 
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Am I supposed to straight up tell him, "Listen, I never want to hang out with you, nor talk to you!"
yes...you are, and should...he obviously needs that, and as long as you keep interacting with him (i told him what to study) he'll not understand or believe it.
guaranteed if you stopped ALL interaction with him he'd get the message...unless he's dangerous.
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Old 05-01-2017, 08:49 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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Yes, you absolutely need to be a little rude to get through to the rock he calls a brain. Do not reply to texts or calls, or you can block him. When he asks when you are going to go out say "Sorry buddy, I'm just not interested". Then excuse yourself with "I've got to go, I'm running late", and walk away.
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