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"I don't understand. But I don't care, so it works out."
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Originally Posted by mochamajesty
With people like you saying that she doesn't have the right to go, why would she?
I don't think the OP ever considered just going when she wasn't invited. The questions seemed to be, why wasn't she invited, and how should she feel about her husband going without her if he chooses to do that.
I have complete empathy for the OP, and understand how awkward this is. But that doesn't mean she has a "right" to go uninvited, or was ever considering doing that.
I wish her well - hope somehow this gets resolved positively.
I don't think the OP ever considered just going when she wasn't invited. The questions seemed to be, why wasn't she invited, and how should she feel about her husband going without her if he chooses to do that.
I have complete empathy for the OP, and understand how awkward this is. But that doesn't mean she has a "right" to go uninvited, or was ever considering doing that.
I wish her well - hope somehow this gets resolved positively.
She doesn't know if she was purposely not invited or if the envelope was just addressed wrong. There is a huge difference.
Nope, OP has said she was specifically NOT invited.
But we still don't know if she was, in fact, specifically not invited, or if someone made an error with the invitees list and she was accidentally left off. The invitation coming to only "Mr. John Doe" might not be a "#$%^ you, Jane" as much as an "oops."
Last edited by fleetiebelle; 05-05-2017 at 12:27 PM..
Nope, OP has said she was specifically NOT invited.
And that could simply mean the invitation was addressed to her husband only. Do you really think some wrote out "Jane Doe is not invited. Only you, john."?
It's horribly rude that they didn't invite her, but the even bigger issue here is that her husband is okay with this,
intends to buy a present and go without her.
That is so disrespectful - honestly, at that point he would be sleeping on the couch, or going to a marriage counselor
or maybe even divorce court. But maybe that's just me.
How on earth could he be so cruel and disrespectful to his own wife?
If I were her, my feelings would be beyond hurt, after all this.
It's horribly rude that they didn't invite her, but the even bigger issue here is that her husband is okay with this,
intends to buy a present and go without her.
That is so disrespectful - honestly, at that point he would be sleeping on the couch, or going to a marriage counselor
or maybe even divorce court. But maybe that's just me.
How on earth could he be so cruel and disrespectful to his own wife?
If I were her, my feelings would be beyond hurt, after all this.
The OP is no longer answering questions, such as mine: "Does he disrespect her in other ways?".
I wouldn't leave over this one thing, but something tells me that this isn't a one-time incident.
Now I think instead of telling my husband that we're going to marriage counseling, if he thinks it's ok to go to this wedding without me, I think I would tell him if we're not a couple (and that's what this is saying if he goes solo) and he doesn't seem to care how totally disrespectful this is to me I don't think I could continue the marriage.
There's enough in a marriage to deal with and if my husband chooses to be this stupid as to throw a "wrench" like this in our marriage - then forget counseling. I would wonder, though, about his thought process and if "two wires" in his brain are touching that shouldn't ! Geez !
I would let him know ahead of time if it's more important that he's at this wedding then keeping our marriage together - then go - be with them !
I wouldn't have any respect for my husband if he disrespected me this way.
It's more important to keep my self-respect and stay true to myself.
Last edited by 70's Music Girl; 05-05-2017 at 04:18 PM..
I would be pissed, but that's just me. When you are married, you either go to a function together or not at all. The fact that it's intentional would make me question a lot of things.
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