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Old 05-11-2017, 12:32 PM
 
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I would be very careful about donating to go fund me accts. A young mother died unexpectedly and someone started a go fund me acct. To pay for her funeral and to this day the family has never received the donated funds to pay for her funeral. It is better to send it to the funeral home for the cost. Even if a honest person started a go fund me. They keep a portion of the money.

 
Old 05-11-2017, 12:48 PM
 
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I would be very careful about donating to go fund me accts. A young mother died unexpectedly and someone started a go fund me acct. To pay for her funeral and to this day the family has never received the donated funds to pay for her funeral. It is better to send it to the funeral home for the cost. Even if a honest person started a go fund me. They keep a portion of the money.

I agree about being careful and making sure the account is legitimate and the person who set it up is someone that is trustworthy. There have been numerous scams. I don't agree that even an honest person would keep some of the funds. I would not dream of keeping anything if I set up a fund for a friend or family member.
 
Old 05-11-2017, 01:23 PM
 
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And if people are willing to donate to help other with big life events, what's it to you? If I don't believe in it, (I'll never donate for marriage or family, since I don't believe in either) I'll just keep my mouth shut and not donate.
The OP asked the question not me.

I answered, that OK with you?
 
Old 05-11-2017, 01:26 PM
 
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Believe me, that is more common then you think.
Thank you.

It's very common. People used to save up for something called a "rainy day fund", it could be anything from car repairs to loss of a job.

Now you have people who cry the blues but have absolutely no control over what they buy. They don't need the $5 Starbucks every morning, or the latest Iphone.

If a child is injured or killed of course you help if you can, but now people want help paying for a wedding, ridiculous. Have the wedding you can afford.
 
Old 05-11-2017, 01:45 PM
 
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A lot of people I know set up Go Fund Me, but I can't donate to all of them.
 
Old 05-11-2017, 02:59 PM
 
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Her trail name was Unicorn.
 
Old 05-11-2017, 03:13 PM
 
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I keep getting invites from people who have GoFundMe pages set up.

One is getting married and needs money for the wedding.

Another is getting expensive in vitro treatments.

Another is trying to get money for an overseas adoption (and already has several kids adopted from overseas that the church raised money for.)

Is this a new trend? Is GoFundMe now the way that people finance expensive life events?
Yep and people are stupid enough to donate to it. I would certainly be rethinking my friendship with anybody who sends me that kind of crap.
 
Old 05-11-2017, 03:35 PM
 
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I need some major home repairs and was tempted to start a "go fund me" awhile back. I didn't though because I did not know how it would be perceived, but I still need those repairs. (leaking roof, broken asbestos tiles falling off house, etc)


Personally, I don't begrudge anyone for setting up a gofundme. My guess is, people who know you and love you will be happy to help out a little to make life a bit easier for you. Others who don't know you will probably pass you by.


As an aside, the chick who wanted to refurnish her expensive apartment...like I said, I just rolled my eyes, but lots of people had very critical comments about it. Which was funny (to me) because you can't comment unless you donate. So here were all these folks criticizing this woman for asking for money...but they're donating money to her. LOL


I'll bet she cried all the way to the bank. Mean ol internet. LOL
 
Old 05-11-2017, 03:40 PM
 
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I see at least 1 new request on Facebook every day. One head scratcher involved a principal at a local high school that passed away fairly suddenly from cancer. Horrible circumstance and I feel for the family on an emotional level, but a GoFundMe was established to pay for funeral expenses. This if for a man that made $100k+ salary and I'm sure had life insurance through the school system. Most basic employer policies are at least 1x's base salary if not more that's provided at no cost. And you can buy up at many more multiples for minimal cost. And that's assuming he had no coverage outside of his employer.




It's just weird that people's first response is "Oh no, that's terrible. Let's give them money!" How did people pay funeral homes before GoFundMe?
 
Old 05-11-2017, 03:58 PM
 
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I keep getting invites from people who have GoFundMe pages set up.

One is getting married and needs money for the wedding.

Another is getting expensive in vitro treatments.

Another is trying to get money for an overseas adoption (and already has several kids adopted from overseas that the church raised money for.)

Is this a new trend? Is GoFundMe now the way that people finance expensive life events?
Yes, it's a new trend, an extremely tacky one.
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