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View Poll Results: WWYD about MIL inviting friend along?
Invite friend along, the more the merrier 17 68.00%
Invite only MIL as original plan intended 2 8.00%
Do nothing, let DH handle his mother and deal with what happens 5 20.00%
Other option not listed 1 4.00%
Voters: 25. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 05-15-2017, 11:14 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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MIL doesnt live here, so when she comes in town, she usually comes for a night or a couple hours. This visit is DHs and DD1s birthdays. We planned to make a day of it and celebrate both (we normally dont it that way). Dinner, presents, cake.

SO she comes back asking if her friend/FWB can come. (friend lives here in town and she stays with this friend when shes in town)

Ive never met this person, neither have the kids. DH doesnt remember the woman. I want to be a good hostess and involve MIL but at the same time, i find it incredibly rude to invite someone on a whim.

WWYD?

 
Old 05-15-2017, 11:19 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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I'd just roll with it.

Is this the hill you wanna die on?????

 
Old 05-15-2017, 11:21 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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I'd just roll with it.

Is this the hill you wanna die on?????

i dont want to die on my MILs hill, shes a nurse...which could work in my favor or not mattering on the motivation.
 
Old 05-15-2017, 11:22 PM
 
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what is the big deal? MIL trusts her friend, and would like to share a family get together.

consider yourself lucky MIL does not impose on your family when she visits. with her friend. I am sure MIL is probably proud of her sons family, including you, and likely talks about you guys (good talks).
 
Old 05-15-2017, 11:23 PM
 
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The friend welcomes her so she can visit you, so MIL may feel it would be rude not to invite her along for cake.
 
Old 05-15-2017, 11:29 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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The friend welcomes her so she can visit you, so MIL may feel it would be rude not to invite her along for cake.
She stays with her brother too and we have invited her to stay with us as well.
 
Old 05-16-2017, 04:25 AM
 
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What's the big deal? She stays with this friend and wants to invite her to have cake, I would feel the same way. No biggie.
 
Old 05-16-2017, 06:13 AM
 
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Originally Posted by Ohky0815 View Post
MIL doesnt live here, so when she comes in town, she usually comes for a night or a couple hours. This visit is DHs and DD1s birthdays. We planned to make a day of it and celebrate both (we normally dont it that way). Dinner, presents, cake.

SO she comes back asking if her friend/FWB can come. (friend lives here in town and she stays with this friend when shes in town)

Ive never met this person, neither have the kids. DH doesnt remember the woman. I want to be a good hostess and involve MIL but at the same time, i find it incredibly rude to invite someone on a whim.

WWYD?
You sound petty, your MIL has a friend who she enjoys seeing when in town. I would also wonder as it is a common occurrence for your MIL to be in town and stay with this friend, how has your husband not met said friend? Could this be a bit of a one-way street, she is expected to devote full attention to your family, but you show little interest in her life and friends, I get that from "comes for a night or a couple hours."
 
Old 05-16-2017, 06:14 AM
 
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Incredibly rude would be bringing him along without asking first. Her actions weren't rude.
 
Old 05-16-2017, 06:33 AM
 
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MIL doesnt live here
...
This visit is DHs and DD1s birthdays...Dinner, presents, cake.
What's the big deal?

Let the friend come. Just because you deem him the FWB doesn't mean that it isn't a relationship to your MIL.

The only issue I see here is you not being a very good DIL.
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