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So, you're just there, floating along in life, doing your thing. You're happy, you're fine. Then you get someone in your life who sees everything as a competition. Everything is reduced to a game to be won. So none of their interactions with you are genuine, because there's always an agenda.
Yet of course, they don't let you know they're playing this game. Not until you figure it out on your own. And then you wonder why the hell someone would live their life in such a way.
Oh man, I recently encountered one of these, yet again, at 61 years old! It was a volunteer organization, and as soon as I figured out what her deal was, I just quit. Not worth it.
So, if you are in a situation where you can just quit or stay away from them, I advise that.
This latest person in my life would ask for help on something within a volunteer organization. Then if I, or anyone else, offered their help and their qualifications as to why their help would be worthy, this person would then seem angry, as if they were trying to show her up, and would then claim to have a degree on the subject.
And everyone in the room is thinking, where in the world did this anger come from? As if the person who offered to help -after help was asked for - was then insulting the person who asked for help!
Then, you realize that she never really wanted help. At any rate, it was just insanely twisted.
I had recently helped the organization recover from a potential huge disaster, and for some reason this woman found that to be an insult to her personally, and she did everything she could to prove she was just as...fill in the blank - capable, worthy, smart...whatever....as me. She turned it into some weird competition to prove I was not needed because she could do whatever I could do.
At any rate, who needs that kind of twisted angry energy in their lives? I wished the organization well, and got the hell out of there LOL.
That kind of thinking gives me ulcers. Isn't life stressful enough already?
One would think so! I would be exhausted constantly scheming like that. It's like they think if they don't "win" or get the better of the other person then they're worthless. Like there can be only ONE winner in any given interaction, and it just MUST be them. It really kills relationships, intimacy (if applicable)...all of that.
This type of person, competition behavior, is exhausting to be around.
Something in them is missing and they're trying to find a way to feel their self worth. This type of person needs to find a way to validate themself, then they wouldn't be behaving immaturely.
One of my guy friends is like this it's so unnecessary. I told him I wasn't going to discuss certain subjects with him since I'm just trying to have a calm conversation and he think it's a competition. Geez !
So, you're just there, floating along in life, doing your thing. You're happy, you're fine. Then you get someone in your life who sees everything as a competition. Everything is reduced to a game to be won. So none of their interactions with you are genuine, because there's always an agenda.
Yet of course, they don't let you know they're playing this game. Not until you figure it out on your own. And then you wonder why the hell someone would live their life in such a way.
Stay away from them? Counter their idiocy?
If it was over something quite trivial I'd tell them to crack on as it shows just how trivial they really are
They are exhausting. What's more, they aren't content for you to enjoy your own victories and triumphs, making them people you really don't want to be with.
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