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I think most people on here agree that common decency is the best option, with possibly one or two good friends. But always maintain some distance as no one like a Nosy Nelly.
I totally agree. In fact, I view my neighbors as colleagues of sorts. That is, I view them as human beings and make an effort to be friendly. I'll even call a locksmith for them if they get locked out. But I will keep a respectful distance and enforce a boundary or two, as far as spending time and sharing my personal life is concerned. I've done that with the neighbors in my apartment building, and absolutely no one ever got upset with me over that. We still say hello in the hallways and eat together at resident socials.
Speaking of colleagues, I did become friends with my colleagues in the past, and kept in touch long after the job ended. But it was my first office job (not retail), and I was 21. It was a whole different mindset.
Never more than a hi, bye, have a good night, how are you, have a good day if any of those lol. I live in a complex of maybe 30 units. I usually wait for someone to talk to me (I'm shy). If I feel chipper, I'll say something first. I was chipper today since the weekend is starting and saw a girl in my complex with a puppy version of my dog. I wasn't thinking and said "Hi. I love Leo! He has grown into a fine dog!". I think I may have creeped her out because she never told me the name of her dog. I just overheard her once say it lol.
So, are you going to socialize the neighborhood by having a nice open house party for Fourth of July or Christmas, fostering the creation of new friendships?
At 8 this morning, my husband and I had an appointment with his oncologist to find out whether he had lung cancer or not. And then he was scheduled for chemo. We live in town and our driveway butts up to the neighbor's lawn. Rather than traipse over their lawn, my husband usually backs the truck down our driveway and I enter the passenger side from the sidewalk. This morning, the neighbor stood on his lawn, looking passive aggressively "patient" to water his flowers while we waited for traffic to subside enough that we could pull out onto the street. I smiled at him and said, "Hello." He glared and couldn't bother to smile or answer back. This morning was the second time I've ever even made eye contact with the guy, so it's not as if he has reason to be hateful. We don't have parties, we don't smoke, drink, have pets, listen to loud music... our house is kept nice... the lawn is mowed. I planted flowers, we adhere to the "rules" of the neighborhood. I simply cannot understand the hateful mindset. And I was in no mood to deal with such petty behavior this morning. I keep trying and keep getting met with hatefulness. It's disgusting.
this is the first house we've ever owned. the neighbors are all older who've lived there for decades. my husband and i are pretty friendly and outgoing. we've gotten to know most everyone. what surprises me is that none of these neighbors seem to talk to each other at all. one family after living there for 25 years moved last weekend. we went over to bring some dessert and say goodbye and they said we were the only one to do so! i was kinda shocked! these people have lived in the same neighborhood for decades, their kids were friends when young and grew up together. but there's no friendships or relationships. is that common?
I'd say it would describe our neighborhood, which is a culdesac. My husband is the social butterfly and he thinks it's important to know your neighbors. I do, too, but to an extent. I do chat with a few neighbors but with limits, as I do not want neighbors inside my house. Chatting is outside only. There is very little mingling (talking) between neighbors.
One couple next to us has lived here 20+ years and there are only 2-3 residents he talks to. His wife talks to only one person - my husband (and occasionally me). We have only one house of weirdos that nobody likes but they keep to themselves. About 3 homes has a tendency to have a lot of turn-over in ownership while the rest do not.
What I can say in our neighbor's favor, though, is that everyone has a live-and-let-live attitude. Nobody cares if someone's grass is tall or if a dead vehicle sits on a driveway. We call it "the neighborhood of low expectations" and I love it.
my neighbor to my left and I are really good friends. She's kinda rachet and I like that. My other neighbor is very quiet and has a family. When i see him or his wife, my face lights up but we don't have much to talk about. lol. He's a good person though.
At 8 this morning, my husband and I had an appointment with his oncologist to find out whether he had lung cancer or not. And then he was scheduled for chemo. We live in town and our driveway butts up to the neighbor's lawn. Rather than traipse over their lawn, my husband usually backs the truck down our driveway and I enter the passenger side from the sidewalk. This morning, the neighbor stood on his lawn, looking passive aggressively "patient" to water his flowers while we waited for traffic to subside enough that we could pull out onto the street. I smiled at him and said, "Hello." He glared and couldn't bother to smile or answer back. This morning was the second time I've ever even made eye contact with the guy, so it's not as if he has reason to be hateful. We don't have parties, we don't smoke, drink, have pets, listen to loud music... our house is kept nice... the lawn is mowed. I planted flowers, we adhere to the "rules" of the neighborhood. I simply cannot understand the hateful mindset. And I was in no mood to deal with such petty behavior this morning. I keep trying and keep getting met with hatefulness. It's disgusting.
After you got brushed off the first time you should've kept it moving.
After you got brushed off the first time you should've kept it moving.
Next time he's standing a foot from the front bumper of my vehicle I'll consider keeping it moving! He probably won't like it, though.
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