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Old 05-28-2017, 07:31 AM
 
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I had one friend who when were younger used to make me and another friend fight against each other for his entertainment, safe to say he isn't one of my friends anymore.
Not to me, but when I was younger, I was friends with two guys and one f@cked the other's girlfriend at a birthday party for the first guy.

I just don't understand how you allow that to happen.

In any case, they are both still friends.
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Old 05-28-2017, 08:16 AM
 
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It wasnt a friend who did me wrong -- it was my own sister. She taught English (ESL) at a prison and, although it was forbidden for her to give the prisoners her contact info, she apparently couldnt say no when they asked her for her street address. But she didnt want her husband to know that she was so wiling to break the rules. So one day she called me and told me that she'd given the prisoners MY address and told them it was hers. (She begged me not to tell her husband.) For months afterward, handmade gifts (leather-stitched wallets, purses, etc) from the prison arrived at my house. I lived in fear that one or more of the prisoners would be released and show up at my house, looking for her.

She's done a lot of underhanded things to me but that one really terrified me.
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Old 05-28-2017, 08:49 AM
 
Location: 🇬🇧 In jolly old London! 🇬🇧
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It wasnt a friend who did me wrong -- it was my own sister. She taught English (ESL) at a prison and, although it was forbidden for her to give the prisoners her contact info, she apparently couldnt say no when they asked her for her street address. But she didnt want her husband to know that she was so wiling to break the rules. So one day she called me and told me that she'd given the prisoners MY address and told them it was hers. (She begged me not to tell her husband.) For months afterward, handmade gifts (leather-stitched wallets, purses, etc) from the prison arrived at my house. I lived in fear that one or more of the prisoners would be released and show up at my house, looking for her.

She's done a lot of underhanded things to me but that one really terrified me.
I'd go absolutely MENTAL!!! at that

How did you deal with it and her if you don't mind me asking?
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Old 05-28-2017, 09:03 AM
 
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I'd go absolutely MENTAL!!! at that
How did you deal with it and her if you don't mind me asking?

I didnt talk to her for a long time. In retrospect, I should have reported her to the prison and to her husband. But doing so would have broken up our family. My grown kids and her grown kids are very close and I didnt want to ruin that.

Then, because we live fairly close to each other and had to see each other at family functions, I forgave her. It wasnt long, though, before she did me wrong again, over and over. So now I've cut her off and just dont attend any functions where I know she'll be present.
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Old 05-28-2017, 09:07 AM
 
Location: 🇬🇧 In jolly old London! 🇬🇧
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I didnt talk to her for a long time. In retrospect, I should have reported her to the prison and to her husband. But doing so would have broken up our family. My grown kids and her grown kids are very close and I didnt want to ruin that.

Then, because we live fairly close to each other and had to see each other at family functions, I forgave her. It wasnt long, though, before she did me wrong again, over and over. So now I've cut her off and just dont attend any functions where I know she'll be present.
Thank you for the reply

Yes I tend to be calm and look at the bigger picture as you've clearly done there but I think I'd be tested with something like that

No but you have handled things brilliantly if you don't mind my saying
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Old 05-28-2017, 03:02 PM
 
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In our group of friends, we had one guy, who used to being an old friend of his to hang out.

On each occasion this happened, something ends up missing. A truck, an apartment gets robbed. Too much a coincident, that we forced him to bring us to his old friend home, only to find some of our stuff!

What a good friend !!!
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Old 05-28-2017, 06:04 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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After reading many of these responses, I think people need to evaluate if their so-called "friends" are really that, and whether it makes sense to continue a relationship with some of these people.

A few have mentioned some clueless actions that weren't intentionally meant to cause problems, but many would clearly know that they were doing someone wrong.
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Old 05-28-2017, 06:29 PM
 
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She dissed every important occasion in my daughter's life...HS grad, college grad, wedding, plus my 50th birthday. She's Catholic, so I went to all the multiple ceremonies that religion has for kids, plus attended her 50th bday party, even though it meant returning to the ----hole where we grew up.

Her husband is a pig who tried to grope females, including myself, even though I was her Matron of Honor, & she was told many times by many people, family included, about what he was doing...total denial. Now, he's all over social media with religious quotes...yeah, he found the lord.

She was perfectly OK with letting her husband exploit my husband's generosity multiple times, with not even a thank you.

I knew this person since 5th grade.

So, thanks, M, you really restored my faith in humanity.


Oh, yeah, I forgot. My HS boyfriend recently passed. He had been ill for a long time, & I had some loosely-made plans to visit him. We all still had ties in the small town we were from. She didn't tell me. I found out from an acquaintance...they emailed me a link to his obituary.

Thanks again, M
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Old 05-28-2017, 07:55 PM
 
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Pretended to want to have lunch with me while I was working a prize booth so her friend could rob it while I had the "out to lunch" sign up. High School job for me for a friend of my dad's. Wasn't my fault because they had told me to take a lunch when I wanted but I always felt bad about it.
Learned many years later what really happened.

We had been best friends all of grade school & middle school until she joined the "cool snobby" crowd. I still feel betrayed by it.

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Old 05-28-2017, 07:59 PM
 
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oh god we did some harsh stuff to each other.....thought it was all in fun...

We stole the sheriffs scarecrow from his garden and put it in the back of my buddy's truck while at school and the sherriff made his daily tour of the parking lot and saw his scarecrow,,,,,,,and steve was being called to the office.. Caught so much crap for this and he claimed he didn't even know it was there
lol
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