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Attractive, fun and outgoing personalities obviously find it easier to meet people and make the effort to get to know others and it's mutual usually as they tend to draw people to them.
If you're the opposite then you'll struggle naturally.
This is the closest to a real answer I have seen. I guess I'll rep the post.
Growing up I only had a handful of friends. After junior high my family moved to another part of the state. I never really made close friends after that. I basically have my wife as my real only close friend. I have acquaintances and I will go out with my wife's friends and their husbands sometimes. I have no problem being by myself. I have never been one for small talk and I hate sports so I don't have that sort of camaraderie with other guys. I was good friends with my wife for 10 years before we started dating and I dated very casually prior to dating my wife being mostly superficial as far as I was concerned basically a string of casual sexual encounters. I don't know if all this makes me a textbook definition of an introvert or not.
When you see someone with over 1,000 friends on FB, those are more acquaintances than friends. It's vital to understand the difference.
A friend is someone who cares about you, cares about your well-being, isn't spending their time judging you or cataloging every little thing they don't like about you. A friend is someone who wants to be in your life and makes time to do just that and wants the very best for you. It's unusual to have a lot of 'friends', it's more common to have a few friends and lots of acquaintances.
I find thT many people have a lot of friends whom they may socialize with, share common interests with but never get to know each other on more than a superficial level. For instance, my partner likes to plan regular social events with two other couples and so we do things as a group regularly. If I never saw either couple again I would't miss them. They are likeable enough but I don't really feel like I "know" them or have any emotional connection to them. For me, if I don't "click" with someone on a more emotional level, I wouldn't seek them out to spend time with. But I used to have a boss who was extremely extroverted, loves to be surrounded by people and although I don't think he gets to know most of them more than superficially, he always has an entourage. Me, I'd just as well be with my dog.
My sister-in-law always comments about my brother that, " all of Tom's friends think that they are his best friend. None of them realize that if they stopped calling him, inviting him to games or to play golf, they would never see him again. It would never occur to him to call them and initiate getting together". I SO get that.
I agree with many posters saying that it is because of the look, personality and choice too.
Someone may have good look and character, but prefers to have less friends and have a quiet life.
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