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Old 06-01-2017, 09:14 PM
 
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Old 06-01-2017, 09:49 PM
 
Location: Cape Cod/Green Valley AZ
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Anyplace that's comfortable, including bars. Every Monday evening a nice group of folks (friends of mine) meet at a small bar. Everyone drinks whatever they wish, mostly beer, some hard stuff. I drink ice-tea. No big deal.

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Old 06-01-2017, 09:50 PM
 
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Hikes
Gym
Coffee shops
Specific event or activity (museum, movie etc)

(I'm in my mid 50s and work full time. I never was a bar or drinking kind of gal
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Old 06-01-2017, 10:05 PM
 
Location: Kirkland, WA (Metro Seattle)
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I quit drinking February 1994 because...well, it was a problem.

For a few years, I avoided it where I could. No bars, didn't go down the beer or liquor aisles in California stores. I had to "mentally close" the space where those items where, a bit of self-hypnosis, to keep that monkey from hopping back on.

Since, that temptation is past. But why tug Superman's cape or whistle by the graveyard? I rarely go to bars, and rarer still sit at the bar. I don't need to stare down the past. Never say never, and I can do so, but the thought sometimes crosses my mind...albeit briefly.

I organize company lunches and dinners at wine bars and other cool spots in the Seattle area. While not quite "friends" I simply have club soda and lime, which could pass for a drink, while they're having wine or alcohol. No one questions me, usually: we're big boys and girls and it helps that I'm pretty senior and my behavior is studied and emulated. Set the example, I figure.

Nor will I go to sloppy drinking parties, that all went out of style in my 20s for my crowd. So, it's easy to meet friends and couples anywhere, from shows to more-gentile galas. We're more about tasks and events then hanging around and boozing, if that answers your question. Tomorrow, for example, will meet some pals at the Ducati dealership, then go to BMW to meet more pals and off for a ride.

Focus on the hobby or task instead?
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Old 06-02-2017, 04:20 AM
 
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I don't drink....
Where do YOU meet friends?
I don't drink either, and I meet friends in cafes, bars, restaurants. Just because the booze is there not an automatic No! on meeting in these places.

The booze is there. Some people drink it, some people don't.
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Old 06-02-2017, 05:03 AM
 
Location: Colorado Springs
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You can still meet in a bar and just order an ice tea.

Nobody cares what you are drinking except you.
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Old 06-02-2017, 07:13 AM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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Go bowling, to a sports event, movies, concert, restaurant or café, walk in the park, fests/carnivals.
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Old 06-02-2017, 07:14 AM
 
Location: Queens THE REAL international city
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Personally, when I wasn't​ a drinker I would mostly meet up with other folks who were into outdoors activity or comics books. Try Meetup.com, you'll find many people who don't drink.
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Old 06-02-2017, 08:55 AM
 
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I meant where do you meet up/hang out w/ the friends you ALREADY HAVE. Not where do you meet new people.
Since I understood what you meant, I geared my other post to things you could do together with friends you already have that would not only give you an opportunity to chat but also to learn/perfect a productive skill.

If you have a home/apartment of your own, why would you have to look for a place that doesn't serve alcohol/doesn't play overly loud music that drowns out meaningful conversation? Just invite friend/s over for coffee and dessert and have a nice quiet evening of talking. Invite several friends for Game Night and play board games/cards/charades until everyone is worn out from laughing.

If you don't have a place of your own, where did you meet these friends in the first place? Keep meeting them there.

I've never been thrown out of a pizza place. Or a Chinese buffet. Nor have I been tossed out of the park. None of these places are loud enough to limit conversation. Or just meet on the corner of __________ and _________ and go for a walk, chatting as you go.

Or you could always just text one another on the ubiquitous cell phone and never have to "meet" at all.
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Old 06-02-2017, 10:10 AM
 
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Dinner out is a good go-to. I also have friends I walk a few miles with on the weekend. In the summer we hang out at each others' pools.
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