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What goes through your mind is told by your face.
Deal with the inner and the outer will follow.
That's a crock. It's her physical feature.
So you're saying the pleasant-looking, politician who is making false promises while he grins in your face with twinkly eyes is showing his inner self?
I am constantly being told I intimidate people or that my eyes give people "dirty looks". I guess that's RBF although I never heard it called that before. I have made friends in the supermarket line or sometimes when I'm giving someone a "look" on purpose and someone else reacted as if it was directed at her. In that case, I usually recognize the look of "who me" and approach them with, "I am sorry, I wasn't giving that look to you. It's a problem, my friends say my face is too readable." or something along that. I have to be careful how I look at people and am aware that my face is judgmental.
You're right, it isn't but I find if I initiate conversation, people respond to my voice and what I say. I often go up to strangers with a compliment and that helps get people past "that look". But then again, it comes in handy when someone's children are misbehaving. I can usually get the children called back or running back to "not-paying attention parent" with my looks.
That's got nothing to do with the topic of this thread. It's not about how she feels.
The problem is that her normal facial expression makes her look contemptuous of others even though that's NOT what she is feeling. People are reacting to the way she looks and prejudging her as a biatch.
Doesn't this make it their problem, though?
Why should people go through the expense of Botox just because people are too hasty to judge?
Why should people go through the expense of Botox just because people are too hasty to judge?
Of course it's the others' problem. People are making assumptions based on superficialities. I personally wouldn't get Botox, but she's not likely to get anyone who makes such assumptions to change, either.
Btw, I have been told that I look angry when I am only thinking, and in all of my childhood "unposed" photos, I either look sad or sullen/surly. However, this has never presented any social problems when I am around people I care about because I am usually happy (or at least content) and interested -- but my face just says otherwise. In fact, I have always looked more like many of the women in 17th century portraits than most modern women, although not so plump. My high school senior class photo definitely showed the (to quote the article below) "signature I’m-sleepy-but-sexy-and-also-judging-you facial expression" -- definitely not attractive in today's world!
It is called a mean face where you look angry,but that is not your intention.
I need pointers on how to deal with it.
It is starting to get a little out of hand,but it seems people who do not have this problem do not understand.
On one hand,i cannot smile just for smiling's sake,yet otherwise people will get the wrong impression of me.
I am content but my face is saying something different,and i suspect it has costs me jobs in the past.
Trust,it is painful to live like this.
This stranger (guy) called me the B word as i was walking past him.
I didn't read the other posts, but if you've read any of mine, you probably know I could probably write a book on being misread. My advice is to just be yourself. Do people really put THAT much emphasis on a first impression? You're frowning, so what?
I didn't read the other posts, but if you've read any of mine, you probably know I could probably write a book on being misread. My advice is to just be yourself. Do people really put THAT much emphasis on a first impression? You're frowning, so what?
Yes,people put that much emphasis on first impressions.
I notice a large amount of people believe anyone who
is not smiling or happy looking then she is miserable.
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