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Old 06-16-2017, 01:34 PM
 
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I'm getting married next fall. I have 5 guys as groomsmen and my step-brother as best man.
I'm fed up of always being left out of friends' and relatives' weddings. I found out last night that one of my groosmen who is also engaged and will be getting married next year picked his wedding party and I'm not in it.
I go out of my way for my friends and relatives all the time. My fiancee and I host parties at our house all the time. I allow them to stay with me when many are in town. I've lent money to various people and when a cousin's wife was seriously injured in a car accident, I took care of that friend's two sons for days at a time so he could be at the hospital with her. They later had a third child and I kept hoping I would be asked to the godfather, but they asked some relative who two states away and they barely see that person.
I'm tired of not being appreciated and I don't feel like I'm good enough for my friends since they keep leaving me out of weddings. Anyone else have similar experiences. I just wish I could have the experience of being in at least one wedding.
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Old 06-16-2017, 01:38 PM
 
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Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. I wonder if people exclude you because they think you would be the least likely to throw a fit about it. I know I feel like I am too nice sometimes to people.
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Old 06-16-2017, 01:45 PM
 
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You talk about everything you for these people, but what have they done for you lately? Are these relationships where you bend over backwards and they don't reciprocate? Are these real friends?
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Old 06-16-2017, 01:50 PM
 
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You talk about everything you for these people, but what have they done for you lately? Are these relationships where you bend over backwards and they don't reciprocate? Are these real friends?
They have done things for me in return. But, they almost always pick the same relatives or friends for their wedding parities or godfathers to their kids. It just seems like they don't think I'm good enough to be with them up front on their big days. I just hate watching from the sidelines.
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Old 06-16-2017, 01:56 PM
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This is a big problem for men. Wishing they could get invited to weddings more. Big problem.
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Old 06-16-2017, 02:04 PM
 
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This is a big problem for men. Wishing they could get invited to weddings more. Big problem.
I get invited to the weddings, I'm just not in any of them. That's the problem for me.
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Old 06-16-2017, 02:22 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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I get invited to the weddings, I'm just not in any of them. That's the problem for me.
Being in weddings is actually a huge pain in the butt. Attending weddings is a cakewalk. Be glad.
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Old 06-16-2017, 02:27 PM
 
Location: South Florida
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Being in weddings is actually a huge pain in the butt. Attending weddings is a cakewalk. Be glad.
I agree - it's a pain in the butt and expensive to be in a wedding.
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Old 06-16-2017, 02:28 PM
 
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I don't care about the costs of being in a wedding. I would just to like to know what's it's like for friends to think highly of me and let me stand up and front with them.
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Old 06-16-2017, 02:31 PM
 
Location: South Florida
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I don't care about the costs of being in a wedding. I would just to like to know what's it's like for friends to think highly of me and let me stand up and front with them.
Have you asked one of your friends why you weren't asked?
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