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Our water heater has been dead since last Friday...it died right before the long holiday weekend. It was under warranty, so we've been scrambling to get the manufacturer to assist us.
We did get an authorized-to-do-warranty-repairs plumber to come out today. Seems like a nice guy, really knows his stuff. But here's the thing: He has close-cropped hair. I can see that he has a large mole on the crown of his head. It does not look symmetrical to me. The mole is in a place where it would be hard to see when looking in the mirror.
Should I ask him about it? The mole may be benign. But early detection is crucial for surviving melanoma.
I guess I would risk being a bit awkward to warn the guy. I had a basal cell carcinoma on the side of my nose, got it removed soon as I realized what it was, could have been a bigger problem if left to "fester".
I'd just point out what you see, note that it might be hard for him to see, tell him he might want to have it checked out.
I probably wouldn't say anything, but if I couldn't resist, I'd at least wait until he's finished the work he's doing, in case he's the type who would take it the wrong way.
I think I would find some indirect way to bring it to his attention and then drop it. Maybe a polite but innocent question like "You've got a dark blob of something on the top of your head. Did something drip on you at your last job? Can I get you a paper towel?" Don't elaborate and don't broach the whole mole topic. He'll investigate later if he didn't know about it, and ignore the comment if he already knows its there. Keeps it in the considerate but impersonal realm of telling someone they have spinach in their teeth to save them embarrassment.
I can see that he has a large mole on the crown of his head. It does not look symmetrical to me. The mole is in a place where it would be hard to see when looking in the mirror.
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What would you do?
I have skin cancer, and I would tell him.
It took a friend of mine to tell me that the spot on my chest was cancer, and that she would even make the appointment for me, before I decided she was serious. I've had four more since then.
"This may be weird, but I just couldn't live with myself I didn't say something...there's a questionable looking mole on your head, and I didn't know if you've seen it. I'd rather be wrong & embarrassed than right & silent."
Just say, "Hey. You can tell me it's not your business, but...." You might save a life, which is worth any awkwardness. My biz partner died of skin cancer. You don't mess around with that stuff.
That is a tough one, maybe "I know this is gonna sound weird & I don't want to alarm you, but skin cancer runs in my family & I couldn't help but notice your mole. If you haven't had it checked out, you may want to". Put it on yourself as though you know you're overly concerned, to spare him any embarrassment.
Honestly, I probably wouldn't say anything b/c it's so awkward, but it's commendable that you want to.
Casually ask "I can't help but noticed there's a mole on your head, is that a birthmark?... and go from there.
He may or may not already know about it, since you're probably not the first person who saw it. Could be a condition he's already dealing with, find out before you kindly distress him further.
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